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Wednesday, June 8, 2016

Ms. Bear on 10 Life Lessons Learned From Zumba!

Well, I’ll tell you, I’ve got to hand it to Melissa because doing one post a day seems a lot to me and she does so many!!! But, in preparation for this one, I went to an extra Zumba class last night for “research” and came away with some great ideas on things that I have learned from attending Zumba for the last 8 years! Melissa, in her super organized way, assigned today’s post to be on the topic of Zumba, so here goes…

When I first started going to Zumba, I was so nervous. What if I couldn’t do it? What if I tripped and fell? What if I couldn’t keep up? All these things ran through my mind, but I decided it looked like fun and I went ahead and tried it. The first few months my legs were wobbly and felt like Jello each time I finished. I didn’t realize then that that is how so many things in life start out. You’re unsure, but if you take that risk, you can stumble (sometimes literally!) upon something that will bring you happiness and teach you important lessons at the same time! So, what are the top 10 things about life that I have learned from Zumba?


1. Sometimes beginning is the hardest thing to do.


2. Sometimes you go fast, sometimes you go slow, but as long as you go you are still passing everyone on the couch!


3. Like so many things in life, a good teacher can make or break your experience (Thanks, Kristina from the Y and Brandi from my work!)


4. Some days you are out in front and some days you just need to hang out in the rear. Either of these is just fine, or you can stay smack in the middle!


5. It’s OK to move to your own rhythm — you don’t always have to be exactly on step.


6. In the words of Mary Poppins, “Well begun is half done!” If you don’t take that first step, you will never reap the rewards!


7. Working as a group brings its own rewards. When people clap at the end of a song, it’s not for themselves; it’s for everyone who participated. There are always smiles all around!


8. You can make lots of new friends and have fun with your work friends at the same time.


9. Just like it should be in life, everyone is welcome at Zumba!


10. But by far, the best part of Zumba is knowing that you are pushing yourself to the limit, not only for a stronger body, but for a stronger mind and for self-discipline.


***** Bonus reason to do Zumba…..It’s fun. As our cool down song always says, “Just dance, dance, dance!” The world looks great when you’re spinning around!

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Monday, June 6, 2016

Transitions: Are They Our Friend or Our Foe?

It was so nice of Melissa to ask me to guest blog this week. I was thinking about topics to do and the first one I came up with is…drum roll, please…

Transitions.

Some people don’t seem to have any trouble with transitions. They just flit seamlessly from one activity or life stage to another. Me? Not so much!
I got to thinking about this yesterday when Janelle and I were stopping by McDonald’s to get her a decaf and me a lemonade (warning: don’t get in the afternoon beverage habit because it can get pricey!). Anyway, after the cashier gave us our order, I was taken back to my daily morning decaf on the way to work. It was a lovely morning ritual, stopping by McDonald’s and taking my decaf out to the back of the school to drink it as I greeted the students at 7:15 in the morning. I am happy to be on summer vacation, but that smell of the decaf made me long for those fun school days of yore (OK, of just two days ago, but you get my point!). And, it’s not like I retired or something; I’ll be back at it in no time.

So, I started to think about other transitions in my life and realized I have always been this way. Going to college required an entire semester for me to adjust. I shed tears on my wedding day, not just of happiness, but of nostalgia for my old life. As the kids got older, I would fret about what I would do when they got out of this stage or that stage. Nevermind that it always worked out. I just couldn’t help myself and got nostalgic.

So, one topic for me to examine this summer is my newly discovered aversion to transitions. After all, isn’t each ending a new beginning?


Are transitions hard for you? What life transitions do you remember the most? Which ones made the biggest impact on you?

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Thursday, August 13, 2015

Blogging Club: How to Keep Your Writing Voice

Confession: I sometimes worry that I’ll lose my voice. Not literally, of course. My writing voice, I mean. It’s not something I’ve consciously crafted, but looking back now, I have developed a pretty distinct writing voice; it’s a voice I’ve actually come to love. It’s sort of become my own personal “brand,” if you will — my personalized stamp that I put on each piece of writing.

And in a sea of blogs and writers, your own voice can be hard to come by. A scarce commodity. A rare glimpse into who you are as a person. Fittingly, writer Drew Hoolhorst describes his own frustration in his article Why You Should Write, which also finds him reminiscing about his grandfather’s influence on his chosen career…

He made me want to write. And he taught me the only reason I needed to write was because, “because.”

Then, one day, I began to write for a living and experienced a conflicting moment when I had trouble finding my “because.”

It’s always so petty, that moment.

“I don’t have any good ideas.”

“I don’t have anything interesting to say.”

“I will misspell a word and people will judge me for not being the best at never making a mistake in my writing, all of the time, always.”

“I will incorrectly use effect/affect as I may have done above. Shit, did I incorrectly use effect/affect?”

“People will just rip whatever I say apart and hurt my feelings.”

This. Is. It. I found myself actually nodding my head in agreement as I read Hoolhorst’s wise words. It’s so easy to get caught up in the noise of writing, the mechanics of it all, that you almost run the risk of losing sight of the whole picture. You might even forget why exactly you’re doing it in the first place. Hoolhorst has an answer for that, too…

It’s easy to overthink it. To think that any piece of writing that you do has to have a point, some giant bigger meaning…Look, writing is supposed to be fun. It’s supposed to be “because.” It’s important not to lose track of how much great shit happens when you hit keys or write words on paper that are out-of-control feelings you’re dying to share with someone…Because, that’s the “because.” Write just to write. It’s healthy and there is always an amazing off chance that it affects someone more than you had any idea it ever could…

What wonderful advice! I’m thinking of printing Hoolhorst’s words and taping them next to my computer! Don’t you agree, friends? How would you describe your ‘because’? Why do you write? What drives you, especially if you’re a blogger? What advice would you add? I’d love to hear in the comments! xoxo

P.S. On honest writing… 🙂

[Photos via We Heart It]

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Wednesday, July 1, 2015

Help! Advice For a Reader!

It looks like we’ve got another first on So About What I Said today! I received an email a few weeks ago from reader Emily, who was seeking advice. She wrote…

I’ve REALLY liked this guy for months. He’s attractive, smart, witty, passionate about similar things and a challenge (dream guy!). I’ve tried different ways to get his attention (including some crazy, “almost made it” stories), but he seems impossible to contact (no email, rarely on Facebook) and constantly busy with work. At first I wanted to see if I could just send him a letter explaining who I was and my feelings, but it became much more complex. I’ve still gotten no response/reaction from him; I don’t even know if he even knows I’ve been trying. Do I… 

A. Give up trying and possibly regret it. 

B. Keep trying and risk looking crazy or annoying.* 

C. Give up for now, wait and hope that someday when he’s not as busy, he’ll still be single and I’ll have a chance. 

*If B. What do I do?? Something bold and risky or keep slowly trying little methods?

I found myself thinking for a few moments after I read her note. Oh, how many times had I found myself in her very predicament? Surely, far too many to count! So maybe I’m not the best one to be giving the advice here. That’s where you come in, friends! I asked if it would be OK to share her email, and she answered with a resounding, “Sure!”

So, what advice would you give her? Which option would you pick and why? Are you like me in that it’s hard to take your own advice?

**Would you like to see an Advice Column of sorts on the blog? It could be fun and a great way to inspire conversation. Are you game? Send your pressing questions to mellow1422@aol.com! I look forward to hearing from you! xoxo

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