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Thursday, August 23, 2018

🎨How Illustrator Melissa Hiebert Found Her Artistic Passion🖌️

Illustrator Melissa HiebertYesterday, I unveiled myself in cartoon form, which I still can’t believe is actually real — how do you wrap your head around that one? Along with the illustration, I also introduced you to the talented artist who brought my vision to life!! Meet illustrator Melissa Hiebert, who I had the pleasure of interviewing about her craft (seriously, check out her amazing work!), what she loves about her job and the advice she’d give to young artists! Read on… xoxo


Name: Melissa Hiebert
Where I’m from: Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada
3 words that describe me: Curious, Tenacious, Determined
Web site: Online portfolio

Tell me a bit about yourself…what do you do, what are your hobbies, etc.?
I love going for walks, reading poetry and Shakespeare and discovering new music. What I do [art] is like breathing to me, an extension of my heart and soul.

When did you first know that you wanted to be an artist/illustrator? Was it always something you wanted to do?
I always loved to draw since I was little, but I also played music and was involved in most of the arts, but acting was my path until I was 19 years old. It was only until I was 21/22 that I started going into art and illustration more seriously.

What artists did you admire growing up?
Eyvind Earle did the backgrounds and all the style work in Disney’s Sleeping Beauty. Definitely one of my most profound influences in my line style and color work. I also love Rodin’s sculptures and all classical art from Greece and Rome. Also, Glen Keane, who just won his first Oscar for Dear Basketball. I love the soulfulness and honesty in all of his work; he always draws from the heart. His drawings are somehow imperfect but totally perfect at the same time. I also admire his daughter Claire, who does beautiful paintings.

What is most rewarding for you as an illustrator?
That’s a question I don’t get asked a lot, but probably when a person I am capturing in my work acknowledges that I captured them accurately and was able to recreate their personality and features on the page.

What issues do you think women face who work in the arts?
So many. Not equal pay, not as many promotions to key positions or voice in boardrooms. Thankfully I have worked with male and female filmmakers and have been blessed to not have experienced any of those things, but I know it does exist. Right now as a woman, you still have to be selective about who you work with so you can have a working experience that is positive and helps you grow as an artist and professional.

Illustrator Melissa HiebertWhat is one piece of advice you wish someone had given you when you were just starting out?
Just start drawing. Draw anything and everything that inspires you. If you want to be multi-faceted, then study all of those disciplines. The one mistake I made as a young artist was putting too much time into my ambition and not enough into my personal life, so I would also say work hard, but make sure to make time for life too!

What would you tell aspiring artists today?
It’s not what it used to be. We still have some form of the ‘Old Studio System‘ with big animation studios, but with the internet, Netflix, more independent cinema making it to the world stage, you can start anywhere, with anything, as long as you have the grit and motivation to put in the work. Don’t be afraid to create your own style. I love all of the styles that the studios put out, independent and Hollywood, but be fearless with creating your own look and feel. We are living in a generation where people want something fresh and distinct.

Thank you, Melissa!!! I just can’t thank you enough for this amazing illustration!! I’ll definitely treasure it forever!! Seriously, this is one of the highlights of my career!!! So. Happy. Be sure to check out Melissa’s portfolio and follow her on Twitter and Instagram! She’s also open to commissioning work, so, you know, if you ever want to cartoon-ify yourself, now’s your chance!! xoxo

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Monday, April 9, 2018

New Book Pays Tribute to Dead Celebrities

Dead CelebritiesIsn’t it funny how people come into your life sometimes — in the most unexpected yet perfect ways? Last year, I had the honor of being featured in the book Pantsuit Nation, which was a first for me and so exciting! Even more exciting?? Taking part in the book launch, where I got to read my excerpt AND meet so many incredible women who are making the world a better place; it was truly inspiring! One of those women was Lee Fearnside! She, along with her brother Andrew, wanted to pay tribute to dead celebrities who died in 2016, and the result is the amazing book O! Relentless Death: Celebrities, Loss and Mourning. Writers penned their eulogies to celebrities such as David Bowie, Prince, Carrie Fisher and Lady Chablis (my contribution!) and each essay is accompanied by an illustration of the celebrity. Lee and Andrew have already met their Kickstarter goal, and I had the chance to chat with Lee and Andrew about what it was like making the book and the lasting legacy of these celebrities… xoxo


Can you tell me a bit about yourself — your background, hobbies, etc.?

Lee: I’ve been making art all of my life. Our mother is an artist, and some of my earliest memories are of making linocut relief prints with her (the technique we used in this book), creating hand-drawn animations with neighborhood kids and making sculptures from natural materials. Art has also always been part of my personal expression and social justice work. I came out in high school through a series of photographs I made. So for me, this project is both a natural extension of what I’ve done all my life and something completely different because of the collaboration.

Andrew: Just like Lee, I grew up making art a lot. Mom took us to the Boston Museum of Fine Arts, where I’d later go to art school, and as a young person, I was enthralled by the blockbuster shows it hosted during the ‘70s and ‘80s–Tut, the Bayeux Tapestry and more. She also took us to Harvard’s Peabody Museum, which had amazing 19th century displays of gemstones, taxidermied birds and a huge octopus crawling across the ceiling. It also had preserved the horrific racism of that era in the form of waxwork Native Americans in ill-fitting clothing stolen during America’s campaign of overt genocide against our Native population.

As a kid, drawing was what I was good at. Drawing was what I could stand on in the face of the unchecked aggression that dominated public schools in that time and place. In drawing, I could be different from the popular kids and yet respected. I did puppet shows from 10-12, inspired by our school system’s big and publicly funded puppet performances–Moby Dick was amazing. In high school, I had the good fortune of meeting Mr. Z, the school’s photography teacher; and there I could blend things I loved: puppets, costumes, fantasy, horror, fashion, expressionism, punk rock, Dada, and Butoh, which I’d just discovered.

What gave you the idea to do the book? What’s the inspiration behind it?

Lee: Like many people, we were completely devastated by the 2016 election. The number of celebrity deaths that year, especially right around and after the election, felt like the end of an era, in part because so many of the celebrities who died were icons from our childhood and young adulthood. Making this book was a form of grieving.

Andrew: Lee and I had been doing drawings of dead celebrities in the fall of 2015. We talked about Bowie’s death on the phone and went back to our lives. But then Prince died, in April 2016; and at the same time, Trump was winning Primaries, despite the clear impossibility of that fact. We talked on the phone again. We began to see the parallels between the chain of celebrity deaths, our generation’s grief over the loss of its heroes, and our grief over the loss, first of Bernie to Hillary and then Hillary to Trump.

Why do you think this book is so important now?

Lee: The Trump era for Progressives has been one of anger, grief, and action. The anger and action are expressed all over the place — in marches, on social media, in the number of non-politicians running for office. Less obvious for ways for people to acknowledge their grief, and to have that process of grieving be expressed collectively. I hope this book not only helps people remember and grieve these celebrities but also grieve the state of the nation without them.

Andrew: American mass culture is organized around celebrities who seem to exist as shimmering halls of mirrors — immortals, floating above us in a mysterious and impenetrable world of stylists and spin managers, fracturing “truth” into glittering crystalline images. And yet celebrities are human, once we penetrate through the media fog; they are no better than their fans, and they too must die, as all do.

Do you have any future plans to do more books, like one each year for those who died?

Lee: We do! While we don’t plan to return to celebrities anytime soon, our next project will explore community. A few years ago, Facebook claimed that people in the US are no longer separated by 6 degrees, but instead by 3.46 because of social media. We’re going to explore that idea, and pair interviews and portraits/images with community change-makers that we know. We’ll ask those people for suggestions of three other people, do the same process of interview and image-making with them, and then ask those three people for their connections, and see if we end up with any of those 54 people connected to each other.

Andrew: Oh yes! This has been such a joy to create, soup to nuts. We want to make art that connects — art that engages our tribe right where we are. This book has driven me deep, and given me a chance to support the work of Albuquerque writers who I truly believe in. I can’t wait to do more collaborative projects.

Dead CelebritiesThanks so much, Lee and Andrew! Be sure to follow the book on Facebook for spotlights of the book’s author. I was so honored to be asked to contribute and am so glad Lee and Andrew came into my life!!

[Top photo via Kickstarter]

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Wednesday, July 8, 2015

The Science of Love: An Expert’s Guide To Flirting

Yesterday, we kicked off The Science of Love, a new feature on So About What I Said that will see me flexing my journalistic muscle. Here’s Part Two of my chat with Laurie Davis from eFlirt, the online dating experts. Enjoy, friends! xoxo

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How do you handle a guy who is all about the flirting and never moving beyond that or making the next move (not that I speak from personal experience…)?
If a guy is flirting, but things aren’t moving any further, I’d recommend giving some subtle nudges or taking control of the situation. If you’re still unsure he’s flirting, do the subtle nudge. If it is clear he likes you, just go for the close! For online dating, this translates to exchanging phone numbers or setting a date. There is nothing wrong with a woman asking for either. In fact, sometimes guys will wait for you to suggest it because they want you to feel comfortable and are not sure how long you want to email before transitioning offline. Don’t be afraid to keep the process moving along. If you email incessantly, you risk losing his interest.

What are some of the worst pick-up lines you’ve ever heard used?
Pick-up lines are a big no-no. And I mean, in any situation. Just don’t do it. We’ve heard them all a million times, and they are not going to help your flirting cause. My least favorite has to be the line, “Did it hurt when you fell from heaven?”

How can you tell the difference between a guy who is just generally flirty and a guy who is flirting with you because he, for lack of a better word, likes you?
When you’re in person, see how he/she is interacting with others. Is their body language similar with others in the group? Are they being just as saucy when they talk to your friends? Then they’re probably not flirting with you.

(This post is part of a series called The Science of Love, where it’s all about the tango of love, or so I’ve heard. Have a burning topic that you’d like to see covered? Email me at mellow1422@aol.com and let’s chat!)

[Photo via We Heart It]

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Tuesday, July 7, 2015

New Series: The Science of Love

(This is the first post in a new series called The Science of Love, where I’ll be putting my journalistic nose to the grindstone in the name of love. Look for interviews from experts on everything from dating to decoding the language of that two-word text. It’s all about the tango, or so I’ve heard. Have a burning topic that you’d like to see covered? Email me at mellow1422@aol.com and let’s chat!)

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We all know I’m pretty much one giant awkward klutz when it comes to all things flirting. I just don’t have one single flirty bone in my body, and more often than not, my attempts at wooing the boys comes off as anything but subtle.

But I hear there are people that can flirt effortlessly. Some might even say they’ve got it all down to an art. I wanted to do some research in the field, but since I’m not bold enough (yet!) to flex my flirt muscle in a trial-and-error style, I turned to the next best thing!

Meet Laurie Davis from eFlirt, the online dating experts. I had the chance to interview her a couple years ago on all things flirting and the changing landscape of technology and dating. Here’s Part One of our chat — look for Part Two tomorrow!

How has flirting changed in the last 10 years, especially with the prevalence of technology?
Flirting has changed a lot in the last 10 years. Now, not only can you flirt in person, but you can flirt online. You can use online dating sites, social networking platforms and iPhone apps. Of course, “there’s an app for that” too. You can use GPS locator apps to find matches at the same bar, and you can approach them via message rather than with a handshake. It’s even socially acceptable to flirt via text, with the possibility of it turning into a sext.

Flirting by way of technology takes away some of the indicators that it is, in fact, flirting — like body language, eye contact and blushing. Flirting virtually sometimes means that you need to be bolder and more outspoken. Subtly doesn’t always come across when it is text-only. People also often let their guards down sooner and say things that they wouldn’t otherwise if the flirting happened in person.

How do men and women’s styles of flirting differ? Could you give me a few examples?
Actually, I try not to generalize by saying “men do this” and “woman do that.” I approach everything on a case-by-case basis with my clients. For example some men are too outspoken and some are too shy. It depends on the person.

I admit I’m an incredibly awkward flirt, especially considering my disability. What advice do you have for me?
I’ve read some of your articles and the wheelchair seems to be one of the big problems you face. When you meet online, the metal and wheels won’t seem so intimidating. You should definitely talk about it, but without it staring them in the face, it probably won’t be such a big thing to overcome.

When you’re face-to-face with a cutie, body language is one of the key factors that tells someone you are flirting. When you’re planted in a seat, you are limited, but you can still flirt your butt off! (No pun intended!!) I’d recommend practicing some things in front of the mirror. I know this sounds silly, but being aware of how your body looks when you do certain things, particularly when you are limited, is important.

Thanks, Laurie! Feel free to share your own experiences in the comments, friends, and check back tomorrow for Part Two of our interview! xoxo

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