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Tuesday, March 12, 2013

Love Lounge: My revised “List” (and one surprising revelation)

So, friends, after we talked about our relationship must-haves last week, I got to thinking more about that little list I made when I was 17. I admit that, back then, the list was the be-all and end-all for me. I remember sitting at my desk in my room one summer night and painstakingly drafting each of the 12 must-have qualities in my journal; you’d think I was crafting the Declaration of Independence with the attention I was giving it. I mean, it was super, super specific (example: He must have a Chandler Bing sense of humor…). At the time, it was as important to me as any historical document ever was — maybe even more important because it fully reflected me and what I wanted. Looking back now, I can’t help but see it as more of a snapshot in time — a snapshot of my life when I was a wee teenager, It reflected my life at the time, and when I completed my 12-point masterpiece? Well, let’s just say I walked around with a pretty big smile on my face for quite awhile.
But now, some 14 years later (yikes!), the list just seems, well, extra complicated. It’s needlessly complicated, if you will. He must have this. He can’t have this. He must do this. He can’t do this. Ahhh! It all makes my head spin these days, and my perspective on the whole list has changed. Maybe it’s because I’m older and have a bit more life experience. Maybe it’s because I’ve started to realize that life doesn’t always work out exactly the way we want it to. Or maybe it’s because my priorities have changed over the years. Whatever the reason for my changing view, one thing is resoundingly clear: The list needs a long-overdue makeover. It needs to reflect 31-year-old me instead of the 17-year-old me of the past. My new list? It’s a pretty small one, but make no mistake — it still packs a powerful punch. Maybe a more powerful punch than the old list. So in celebration of moving forward, I gave you the Top 3 H’s of a relationship that are most important to me…

Heart
Let’s face it, without heart, you’ve got nothing. A guy’s got to have a good heart — the deep kind that make you feel like you’ve found your home after years and years of searching. A guy with a soul is a very attractive guy indeed.

Humor
I’m always going to need humor in my life. One of things that made my parents’ marriage look so easy, I think, was their ability to have fun and laugh. They were always smiling whenever they were in the same room — those sorts of smiles that were so infectious that you just couldn’t stop yourself from smiling too.

Hushed conversations
OK, so I’m stretching with this one a bit. I wanted to have the importance of talking in the mix, so I got creative and tacked on an adjective to the word ‘conversation,’ but the sentiment is still true. I want to be with someone that I can talk to — about anything. And, they don’t always have to be those super deep, long, emotional talks either; there’s something to be said for a relationship where two people are fully comfortable and content to just shoot the breeze. It sounds ideal.

And, one more little revelation? I noticed I never even mention my disability in my 12-point list of yore. Not even once. No mention of a guy having to accept my disability and see past it. No mention of making sure my disability isn’t some sort of dealbreaker. Looking at the list now, you’d probably have no idea I was even physically disabled. It’s almost like it didn’t exist. That sort of blows my mind, you know? Because back, then, maybe it didn’t take up so much head space for me. Was I more self-confident? More innocent and naive? It’s something to think about, isn’t it?
 
Have you ever given your list a makeover? Why? What did you add? What did you delete? What do you think your list will look like in 5 or 10 years? xoxo

[Photos via We Heart It]

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Wednesday, March 6, 2013

Love Lounge: What do you want in a partner?

We’ve talked about what we went in a relationship and what we’d include in a relationship contract, but this afternoon, let’s talk about those specific qualities we look for in a potential partner. I confess that I once made a 12-point checklist when I was a young lass of just 17. At the time, I thought the list was a bit, well, long and a bit too specific, but as it turns out, I’ve got nothing on one woman, whose 31-point list has been making the Internet rounds. Her dream man? He must possess these qualities…

What do you think, friends? Is she being too demanding or just right? Do you think people would respond differently if this list had come from a man? Why or why not? What are the top qualities you look for in a partner? Are they the same qualities you bring to the relationship? I’d love to know! xoxo

[Top photo via Le Love]

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Wednesday, May 11, 2011

The List: 5 Most Popular Baby Names.

Were you ever like me when you were a kid and daydreamed about what you’d name your future children? I loved thinking of names. The funny thing was that I could easily think of names for girls, but names for boys? Not so much. Do you like these top baby names for 2010?

Boys
*Jacob
*Ethan
*Michael
*Jayden
*William

Girls
*Isabella
*Sophia
*Emma
*Olivia
*Ava

Hmm, I’m sensing a Twilight trend here. What are your favorite names, for boys or girls? I’ve always loved Hannah, Caroline, Mary Jane and Madison. 🙂

P.S. Fun Fact: The most popular girls’ name in 1981, the year I was born, was Jennifer. The name Melissa was #5, though! Woo hoo! xoxo

[Photo via We Heart It]

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Tuesday, May 10, 2011

The List: 5 Most Popular Ice Cream Flavors.

The high today is supposed to be 86 degrees! Whew! I think we can finally (knocks on wood…) say goodbye to the winter. I love nothing more than sitting back with a cold one during the first hot days of the year, and by a cold one, I’m referring to ice cream here, not an intoxicating beverage.

Ice cream just screams summer, doesn’t it? And thanks to the International Ice Cream Association, these 5 flavors come out on top:

*Vanilla
*Chocolate
*Butter pecan
*Strawberry
*Neapolitan

And of course, I feel it’s only my duty that I share my own top 5…

*Cake Batter
*Oreo
*Mint chocolate chip
*Reese’s peanut butter cup
*Butter pecan

What about you? What delicious flavors round out your top 5? xoxo

P.S. Also, the best ice cream parlors in the United States!

[Photos via We Heart It]

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Monday, May 9, 2011

The List: 5 Reasons To Love Mondays.

I thought we’d change things up a bit this week with a fun series – 5 lists in 5 days! Now, I must admit, I’m not the one who came up with this glorious idea. I did have a little help, thanks to my mom. “Oh, it’ll be fun!” she told me over the weekend. She’s usually right, so who was I to argue?

Let’s kick off the week with a lovely list of reasons to adore Monday – a day usually met with dread, grumpiness and perhaps even a few choice words.
*You don’t have to feel guilty for popping open that can of Diet Coke before 10 a.m.

*You can sing your Monday blues away thanks to some catchy Monday songs – Monday, Monday or Manic Monday, anyone?

*Two words: Hugh Laurie. Need I say more?

*If you’re like my family, you find yourself in a state of frenzied cleaning over the weekend in an effort to make your house resemble those on House Hunters. On Monday, you have the pleasure of coming home to a clean and clutter-free house.

*There are only 4 more days until your absolute favorite day of the week – Friday

So tell me, friends, why do you love Mondays? Post a list of your own! xoxo

[Photo via We Heart It]

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