Good Monday morning, friends, and welcome to the first full week of March! Would you believe that we’re under a wind chill advisory this morning?!? You know what that means — I didn’t make it to the library!!! “It’s too cold to go out” has been my refrain for the last four months, and, frankly, I’m SO OVER IT. Anyway, for today’s motivational quotes, I’d love to chat about one of my passions: Therapy!! Yes, I know that sounds like an odd thing to say, but it’s true!! You all know that I’m a huge proponent of therapy and am a forever advocate of mental health treatment. I also have never been shy about sharing my experience. The last 10+ years in therapy have honestly saved my life, and I wish we could just erase the stigma of “Oh, therapy is for people who are weak!” No, no, no! There is no shame in getting help, and here are five quotes that will help you see that…
Have you been feeling the weight of the news lately, friends?? It’s heavy and it’s overwhelming. And it just sort of sits on your shoulders, feeling like it could all crush you at any moment with its sheer force. I’ll admit that I’ve been getting pretty discouraged over the last few months (well, actually, since November 8th…), but maybe — just maybe — we have a little glimmer of hope in the form of World Kindness Day!!
Today couldn’t have come at a better or more-needed time. Maybe you agree. The world seems to be on fire from all angles, and, honestly, it just seems to be getting worse by the day. So, how can we inject some niceness into the world? Not just today, but tomorrow and the next day and the day after that? Here are 3 simple (but meaningful!) ways to get started…
Technology and social media have really put a wrench in the Art of Listening. Sometimes, the best thing you can do for another person is simply listen to them. Don’t try and solve their problem. Don’t try and tell them how they should feel. Just sit and listen. It’s one of the kindest gifts you can give your fellow humans.
Insults are so 2016, don’t you think?? The next time you feel an insult escape your lips, counteract that negativity with a compliment. In fact, throw around that “Great job!” and “You rock!” like they’re both going out of style! Let those compliments ripple through the world like a pebble in the ocean.
Giving your whole heart to the ones you love is never a bad idea. After all, the world needs all the love it can get. Tell someone TODAY just how much you love them. And give them a big hug too!!
Also, I love how my writer friend Dorri Olds puts it…
I am much more aware of other people’s feelings than I’ve ever been before. I try to speak to others as I like to be spoken to and it must be making a difference because I feel close to so many kind people.
Now more than ever, the world needs more kind people. Be one of the nice ones today and always!!! If you ask me, 2017 could have used 365 days of World Kindness Day, but we all have to start somewhere. Let today be it!
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There are so many times in life where people are going to hurt you. They may even hurt you deeply. Maybe they even try to bring you down. It can be hard not to listen to those voices sometimes and you might even start doubting yourself. I know I’ve doubted myself in the past and it can get pretty brutal when you start letting those types of lies in your head.
Because when you start giving rent space to those falsehoods, you’re giving them priority over all the truths. They can no longer get in your head because there’s no longer any room left. And that’s not fair to you! Do you know why?
BECAUSE YOU’RE AWESOME!!
If you believe anything I write on this blog, please believe that. I promise I know what I’m talking about. People will come in and out of your life, but you’re stuck with yourself forever. I figure you might as well like yourself while you’re on this roller coaster otherwise known as life. So the lesson here, friends, is really this: Know yourself. Love yourself. And above all, always remember to #BeBraveBeYou… xoxo
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Being alone sure gets a bad rap. It’s *almost* even worse than the plague or being seen in last year’s fashions. Surround yourself with people, people, people! Being alone is sort of like the kiss of death. There have been songs about it, books on the subject and movie/TV characters exploring the idea at every turn.
And what’s more, we can’t want to be alone. We must never show any inkling of this desire for fear of friends and family bringing out the Kleenex and sitting us down for a heart-to-heart discussion that may or may not really be their attempts at an intervention. Times a-wasting and something must be done before all hope is lost. Something must be done before it’s too late, right? I mean, there must be something wrong with you if you want to be alone so much; people want to try and “fix” you, to perform some sort of miraculous exorcism by which that evil demon will loosen the tight grip it has on you. Or something like that.
Whoa! Are you tired yet? I know I am. This idea of choosing to be alone — it’s a lot to take in, apparently. I’m not sure how wanting to be alone ever became such a taboo thing in the first place. Surely there were cave people who were like, “Hey! Yes, you, fellow cave dweller…please leave me alone! I want to contemplate this fire thing all by myself!” They may not have used those exact words, but I’m willing to bet the overall sentiment was there, loud and clear.
Maybe it’s all because the idea of being alone is such a foreign concept to some people. Or, maybe it’s because it’s natural to sometimes project your feelings onto other people’s lives — we’ve all done it, haven’t we? But at the very root, I think it all comes down to assumptions. We’ve come to associate being alone with being unhappy, so we automatically assume that you must be miserably unhappy if you should find yourself alone. To be alone is to be sad, and no one would actively choose that, right?
Yet a lot of people confuse “being alone” with “being lonely,” and those are two entirely different concepts. You can be the most popular person in the world and constantly be surrounded by people — a steady stream of people going through the revolving door of your life.Or you can choose to feel like an island sometimes and be perfectly content. That is, you can be alone and — wait for it — LOVE IT. At least that’s the case with me. Now, I’m not saying I’m going to feel this way forever; who knows how I’ll feel in a month, a year or even five years from now. But today, I’m happy to be flying solo, to have time to myself and still feel completely present. Perhaps Mindy Kaling said it best when she spoke to Buzzfeed last year…
It’s funny, I used to freak out about being single much more in my twenties. I’ve noticed that the more professional success I have, or the more happy I am professionally, the less I worry about that because I have a great deal of professional confidence. I’ve noticed whenever I’ve felt the most boy crazy or when I wanted to get married it was when I was not so happy professionally. I have this thing and it’ll happen like five times a year on a Sunday night, the feeling like, Oh, a family would be great. Not even being in a relationship — but a family because I’m 35. I think what snaps me out of it is just the fact that I love being by myself. I think that if I was in the wrong relationship, which I have been in several, that would be so much worse than the feeling of autonomy I feel right now.
So, the lesson here? Don’t assume that there is something inherently wrong with craving alone time. It isn’t desperate or sad or pathetic. It isn’t abnormal and it certainly doesn’t mean that there’s something wrong with you. Yes, people may try to change your mind or try to change who you are. Don’t let them. Being alone can be such a beautiful, freeing and refreshing experience. When else would you have the opportunity to really dig in and discovery who you are? I’ve learned so much about myself over the years, and I doubt I would have be able to do that if I was surrounded by people 24/7.
LET’S ALL CELEBRATE BEING ALONE…you know, just not celebrating together!
Do you like being alone, friends? Why do you think it’s become taboo? How do you carve out some quality alone time for yourself? Any tips you’d like to share?? xoxo
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Roald Dahl had one of those creative minds — the kind that helped him pen such imaginative classics as Matilda, Charlie and the Chocolate Factory and James and the Giant Peach. He certainly had a way with words, that’s for sure, and his words just seem to ring true.
Take his wise words from The Twits, for example…
“If a person has ugly thoughts, it begins to show on the face. And when that person has ugly thoughts every day, every week, every year, the face gets uglier and uglier until you can hardly bear to look at it.
A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts it will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.”
Although published for the first time in 1980, these words still mean as much — if not more — today as they did 36 years ago. The world can be quite an ugly place, full of hatred and jealousy and just general meanness, and just because people can act downright cruel at times doesn’t mean that we have to return the gesture. We can choose to keep our heads held high and we can choose to be kind. We don’t have to let others’ bad attitudes — their ‘ugliness’ — consume us as well. We have the power to choose our own thoughts. And we can let those thoughts be good and beautiful.
It’s all about killing them with kindness, right?? After all, the world can be a pretty dark place. Don’t you want to be the shining light among the darkness? xoxo
P.S. Remember these adorable Roald Dahl postage stamps? 🙂
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