You know what, friends?? I’ve realized something about all the op-eds that I’ve been writing for the last six months: Most of them are about some dangerous aspect of the patriarchy and its treatment of women. Take this op-ed about AOC and Maxine Waters pushing back against mansplainers in Congress.
Here’s how my days typically go when I’m on deadline for a timely op-ed: I get the acceptance in the morning, turn in the piece at 1 p.m. and see it publish around 3:30 p.m.! This is my first for The Independent (yes, I know I didn’t share my pieces for The Independent in chronological order), but definitely not my first time taking men to task for their mansplaining…
Isn’t what happened to AOC and Maxine Waters all too familiar?? I mean, it’s becoming a broken record at this point, and women are sick of it! Their exchanges with men mirror, on a national level, what women all across the country have experienced. In all occupations, not just politics, and in seemingly every area of life.
We’re tired. It’s amazing (and frustrating) the number of times men have swooped in on Facebook or Twitter to try and “explain” something to me, only to act incredibly insulted when I pushed back.
But this piece for The Independent started with this tweet I posted after I heard about Paul Ryan trying to give AOC some “little tips” about being in Congress. Ugh, ugh, ugh….where’s the eye-roll emoji when you need it? Ironically, men even tried to mansplain to me in response to said tweet; I think the irony was lost on them, though.
Here’s an excerpt of the piece, in which I remind the world, yet again, that women are not required to listen to men…
It’s 2019, but it seems that a lot of men still have yet to grasp that the women in their lives didn’t ask for an explanation in the first place. They operate under the assumption that women are in desperate need of help, that they aren’t capable of completing or understanding tasks themselves, and that a man’s advice will magically save the day.
Yet the women I know? We’re tired. We’re tired of being underestimated and not taken seriously. We’re tired of being seen as weak and incapable. I’m starting to lose count of the number of times men have swooped in on Facebook or Twitter to try and “explain” something to me, only to act incredibly insulted when I pushed back; it’s as if they think I’m somehow required to listen.
You can read the full piece here and I’d love to hear your thoughts. Feel free to email me anytime at firstname.lastname@example.org and let’s chat! And of course, feel free to share my essay on Facebook, Twitter or even your local refrigerator. If you share on Twitter, be sure to tag me @melissablake so we can connect! I can’t wait to hear from you! Love you all… xoxo