Can I be realer than real for a minute here, friends? We’ve talked about bullying a lot over the last 8+ years (and more recently about recognizing your self-worth!) and, by golly gee, I’ve had my fair share of critics over the years, but an incident yesterday took the cake. Or rather, it made me stop and go, “Umm, NO! I most certainly will not stand for this…what is this world coming to?” Which is why, today’s lesson calls for a few thoughts on bullying and social media…
After I tweeted my thoughts on recent incident involving two YouTubers (a guy attacked a girl), saying how disgusting it is that the guy is blaming the victim. Apparently, not everyone agrees with me, as evidenced by the hateful diatribe I received. I suppose it was just another day of fighting off the haters. Don’t worry, I blocked the person…but am NOT above putting them on blast, which I proceeded to do on both Facebook AND Twitter. This person eventually deleted the tweet, but I won’t lie and say it didn’t hurt. Because it did. It hurt in the way that someone you don’t even know would be so quick to make an assumption about you and judge you.
It hurt because I know this type of thing isn’t merely an isolated incident. It happens far too often — and with far bigger consequences for some people. And yet, our first instinct is to recoil in terror and simply look the other way. I’ll admit that I’ve been guilty of this in the past — maybe if we don’t look at it, don’t acknowledge it, then perhaps it will just vanish as quickly as it came.
But guess what? It won’t. Here’s the thing: We shouldn’t be afraid to stand up for ourselves. We shouldn’t be afraid to speak our truth. And we most definitely shouldn’t let someone intimidate us into silence. Taking away someone’s voice is one of the worst things you can do. Don’t. Be. That. Person.
And on a larger scale, this brought something into extra-sharp focus for me: Women standing up for themselves is still that’s a bit of a taboo in our society and around the world. Is this why women are so reluctant to speak up? Is this why women don’t feel safe at times?
Don’t be a bully. Be a decent human being instead. I promise, it’s a lot easier and a heck of a lot more rewarding! Remember, use your powers for good. Spread love and kindness!! And…squash hate wherever you see it, friends! xoxo