I’m a pretty simple gal, friends. By now, you’ve probably realized that it doesn’t take a lot to make me happy. And I’m pretty sure I’m going to approach dating the same way. Sometimes, there’s really nothing better than the simple things, is there? Have a question? I’d love to hear it, so feel free to email me (mellow1422 [at] aol) or ask me on Facebook or Twitter, friends! Today’s question is…
What’s your idea of the perfect first date?
I’m all for something simple – maybe a dinner in a quiet restaurant. I’m a big talker, so I want to have the opportunity to really get to know the other person. I wonder what a guy will think when he finds out that he’s the first guy I’ve ever gone out with. I’m pretty awkward sometimes, so I’m picturing myself saying something in the middle of the date like, “So this is my first time…” He’d probably assume I was talking about the restaurant and say, “Oh, isn’t the food great?” and then I’d have to spell it out that this this was my first date. Ever.
And, although I’m not particularly old-fashioned, but there are just some things a guy should do during the date, and one of those is at least offer to pay for dinner. Also, if a guy is texting during the date, I will be making a mental note. The same goes for if he is rude to the waiter. You can tell a lot about a person’s character by how he treats other people. And dessert. Any man who loves his desserts is a keeper in my book. xoxo
[Photos via We Heart It]
wendy h says
I agree with most of what you wrote except for having the guy pay on the first date. I like to go dutch, just a personal thing.
Simple first dates are the best! My first date with John was spent sitting across from each other at a local diner, shyly making eye contact and slowly getting to know each other… With a plate of apple pie ala-mode between us (that neither of us touched due to nerves). Completely romantic!!!
Jenny in Ohio says
well, you don't HAVE to tell him it's your first date right away….
Melissa Blake says
Ha, very true, jenny! 🙂
little t says
Ha ha- agreed! Especially about how he treats the wait staff. I worked as a waitress before too so it would definitely be a deal-breaker if he was rude!
Perfect first date- grungy, low-light bar. Rock music. Getting only slightly tipsy on Jack Daniels. Easy conversation and long slow good-night kisses!
Lena at A Crimson Kiss says
I was just thinking about my first "date" with John–we saw a faculty chamber concert, then walked around for HOURS, talking about everything under the sun. It probably wouldn't have been my idea of a perfect first date, but it was such a wonderful start for us.
Plus, I was fairly certain he'd pay for dinner and leave a generous tip, so I didn't worry too much about that!
Beautiful Things says
I completely agree with you about guys who are rude to the waiter.
I was on a date which was going ok. I wasn't sure if I liked him but I was willing to try a second date. Then he started being really nasty & overbearing to the waiter (who had done nothing wrong) and it was like a light being switched off. All his good qualities immediately receded and all I could see was an unpleasant little man who thought it was ok to speak to people in a rude, patronising manner. I couldn't get out of the restaurant quick enough.
ilene @ muchloveilly says
the best kind of first date is a simple dinner – so it gives us a chance to talk and get to know each other a bit. my fiance did just that, so i guess that's why we had a second, a third…and the rest is history. 🙂
Viola Baier says
Once again an anonymous commenter who should go and fuck them self! Sorry Melissa, that you have to deal with people like this. I hope you will never start believing what these sad creatures think, who only want to bring you down for god only knows what reasons they have.
wendy h says
To the anon that likes to say cruel things… There are numerous ways to trace IP addresses.
Melissa Blake says
Lena, that sounds like a perfect first date! I agree with you all about doing something low-key so you'll have plenty of time to talk…. 🙂