My mother is a seventh-grade teacher, and a few years ago, the school principal began saying this every morning at the end of the morning announcements. I scoffed at it for years, but it really does make sense. We sometimes can’t control what happens to us, but we can control how we react. Don’t let people – or situations – bog you down unnecessarily. In the end, it’s just not worth it.
Surround yourself with the people (and cats!) you love
I’ve been blessed with an incredibly supportive group of family and friends. They’ve stuck by me. I know everyone says this, but I wouldn’t be where I am today if it wasn’t for my mother. She’s been an incredible rock of love, support and comfort. I’m amazed at how she does it sometimes. And, of course, our two beautiful cats, Harry and Stella, make every day an adventure for us.
Keep going in the face of adversity
Having a physical disability, I’ve faced some pretty tough times. I’ve had 27 surgeries, been hospitalized more times than I can count and could probably recall every medication I’ve ever taken. But you know what? Those moments, even the ones where I felt hopeless and frustrated and “just wanted to be like everyone else,” pushed me even harder to keep going. I was determined to live my life and wasn’t going to let my disability stop me.
Write for you
I graduated college in 2005 with a major in journalism. I’ve always loved writing and the power of creative expression. My mom claims I wrote my first beautiful piece, a poem, in third grade. Writing has a way of being very therapeutic for me. I’ve been able to put my story, my life, on paper and not be afraid of what people will think when they read it. There’s something incredibly freeing about that. I’ve made a vow with myself that I won’t shy away from anything in my writing, remain true to myself and above all, write with honesty.
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Viola Baier says
Great idea, Melissa! I'll be following your posts, you can never have enough tips on having a happier life!! For me personally happiness can be gained through making other peoples lives happier! Give a friend a little present without any real occassion (these are the best presents!!) for example. Or sometime just smile and say Hi to a stranger on the street, helping someone packing groceries and give out compliments (only honest ones of course). All the best from Germany,
I love these tips! I am thinking of my own as I type. 🙂
My middle school principal used to say that too! Crazy! But so true.
Dancing Branflake says
Love this! Well, my advice is to always serve. No bad thing came out of serving others.
Lena at A Crimson Kiss says
I LOVE this! I'm always telling John that he has control over his day, but recently I found myself feeling crummy–and he said, "Laine, you are indulging in feeling this way, and if you were talking to me, you wouldn't let me get away with it." Turns out he was listening!
Micaela // Drifter and the Gypsy says
What a great idea. Love the new feature 🙂
Elsa de Diego says
Darling! I would be honored if you let me be part of this: Faith, love and values are crucial for me in order to hae a happier existence. But I would love to expand more on those thoughts…! Besos!
I like the intro and am looking forward to seeing more in this series!
Melissa Blake says
These are wonderful tips, everyone!!! DO send me an email….I'd love to have you participate!
Melissa Blake says
Elsa, thank you! I got your email and will write back tomorrow.
Oh my goodness, my middle school principal would say that everyday over the announcements too! And it made me so mad – if something horrible out of your control happens, sometimes you can't make the choice for it to be a good day. Though obviously, most of the time things aren't that bad 😉
Yes, love this, Melissa. I've actually been spending time looking for "reasons to be cheerful." Any thing that helps is most welcome. xoxo