Dear Mr. Melissa Blake:
How honest were we with each other in the beginning — both when we first met and while we were dating? Now, Sweetpea, I’m not talking about the little things like our favorite foods or our favorite colors or what grave atrocities we committed as children. I’m talking about the big stuff, the sort of things healthy relationships are based on. Things like who we are. Things like what we want in life. Things like what we value, believe and dream about.
I used to wonder how much about my father‘s suicide, my struggles with depression and life with a physical disability I should share with people — and well, especially you, Sweetpea. But then I realized that talking — and writing — honestly and from the heart was the only way I knew how to do it. And people really appreciate it in the end. When you’re able to connect with someone on such an intimate level, it’s almost as if they’re giving you a glimpse into their soul. Not everyone is comfortable with being so vulnerable and open…can you believe there was a time that I was a lot more guarded than I am now in the summer of 2012? It takes courage to open up, to speak your truth and your story, so when you meet someone who wants to let you in? Well, that’s a powerful thing, if you ask me.
And when it’s all said and done? That’s exactly what I want for us, Sweetpea. To let each other in, not in some superficial way, but with an honesty like no other. That sort of no-holding-back, I’m-in-this-for-the-long-haul, I-never-want-to-turn-back sort of honesty. Does that make any sense?
There are far too many dishonest and heartless people in this world. And there are even more couples who live for years together without ever being honest with each other. I never, ever want us to become one of those couples. Being honest just takes a huge weight off your shoulders. When you’re honest and not afraid to be who you are — there’s nothing better in the world. Besides, you’ll probably learn pretty quickly that honesty will always be the way to go with me. Are you ready, Sweetpea? Until we meet… xoxo
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