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Monday, August 6, 2012

An Open Letter To The Glee Project’s Ali Stroker

Dear Ali:

I’ll be the first to admit it: I’m a self-proclaimed Gleek. I’ve always thought the show struck that perfect balance of being refreshingly entertaining, but also purposefully, responsibly and respectfully taking on important social issues, from bullying to underage drinking. But what I found particularly poignant? The character of Artie. Now here was a TV character that defied stereotypes. He was in a wheelchair, sure, but by all other accounts, he was just like any other member of New Directions — all at once, a starry-eyed dreamer and confused, soul-searching teenager just trying to figure life out.

A lot of times, though, when TV shows feature characters with disabilities, the character’s story become more about the disability than the character itself. It’s almost as if the disability takes on a life of its own and becomes the defining element in the character’s life and all the character’s story lines. Everything revolves around the character’s disability. All the time. There’s no escaping it. But, as I’m sure you know, when it comes to people with disabilities — even if they’re just TV characters — said disability is only part of the person. It’s one part that helps makes the person whole, which is one of the reasons I’ve always appreciated the way Glee has handled Artie’s disability. They didn’t present it in a condescending way. They didn’t talk down to him. They didn’t present him as the type of character people should feel sorry for. And, perhaps most importantly for me, they made him the sort of character who had a mind of his own.

My only quibble? Maybe it’s a minor one, really, but I always wished that the actor who played Artie was actually paralyzed in real life. Kevin McHale does an excellent job, of course, but an actor who also had the disability of the character they play could bring such an interesting bent to the show.

And then I caught you on season two of Oxygen’s The Glee Project. Finally, I thought, here was a woman who isn’t afraid to be who she is. She’s comfortable in her own skin — and in her own wheelchair (do you call your wheelchair your ‘wheels’ like I do? Or maybe that’s just me…). The more episodes I watched, the more I realized that all the positive influence you’d bring to the table, especially for young people with disabilities. On last week’s episode, you said that it’s important for teenagers with disabilities to feel like they can be sexy. This message, as I write about a lot on my blog, is something sorely lacking in today’s media.

So, thank you, for being a role model for young people with disabilities everywhere. Thank you for showing them what a beautiful thing it is to have confidence in yourself, no matter who tries to tear it down. Who says people with disabilities can’t be — and shouldn’t feel — sexy? No one should have the power to take that away from you and make you feel anything less than beautiful. Thank you for representing that each and every week. I hope to see you on Glee next season! xoxo

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  1. M'ris says

    Monday, August 6, 2012 at 11:13 pm

    also, fwiw, Sean, from S1E18 (Laryngitis), is a quadriplegic in real life. (Zack was actually one of my campers before his injury.)

    http://www.examiner.com/article/glee-makes-quadriplegic-actor-zack-weinstein-s-dream-come-true-laryngitis-episode-videos

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  2. Jacquelineand.... says

    Monday, August 6, 2012 at 11:40 pm

    This is truly an inspiring article Melissa and I appreciate you writing it; good, positive, comfortable in their own skin role models are hard to find everywhere but no more so than among those who are disabled.

    And in answer to your question: yup, I called mine 'wheels' as well, and my cane was my third leg. 😉

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  3. Melissa Blake says

    Monday, August 6, 2012 at 11:57 pm

    Hi, M'ris — thanks so much for the link! 🙂 Great to know!

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  4. Melissa Blake says

    Monday, August 6, 2012 at 11:57 pm

    And, jacque…that's awesome! Thanks so much! xoxo

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  5. THE ALTERNATIVE WIFE says

    Tuesday, August 7, 2012 at 12:39 am

    I love Glee and also think they do a wonderful job of taking on social issue. Artie is one of my favorite characters. And not because he's in a wheelchair. It's never held him back and you're right, I love how Glee doesn't focus on his disability. That's not what Artie's about. He just happens to be in a wheelchair. I haven't had a chance to see the Glee Project though. I'll have to try to catch it. She sounds like quite the girl. Thanks for telling me about her, Melissa 🙂 xoxo

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  6. Blond Duck says

    Tuesday, August 7, 2012 at 2:02 am

    I've heard that's a great show! I'll watch it just for her!

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  7. Rhiannon says

    Tuesday, August 7, 2012 at 12:15 pm

    I love your letters and think this specific one is so sweet! I don't watch many shows on TV but I do have to say Glee has a special place in my heart 🙂

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  8. Try It With Carmella says

    Tuesday, August 7, 2012 at 2:24 pm

    i could not believe she got sent home! especially when shes been a front runner every week 🙁

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  9. Melissa Blake says

    Tuesday, August 7, 2012 at 3:44 pm

    Ali is still in the running, Carmella — I'm hoping she wins! xoxo

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  10. Melissa Blake says

    Tuesday, August 7, 2012 at 3:44 pm

    Glad you all liked this letter!! Feel free to tweet it to Ali @alistroker. I'm hoping she'll see it!

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  11. Try It With Carmella says

    Wednesday, August 8, 2012 at 1:59 pm

    omg i realized this while i watched last night's episode. i was like DUH it was shauna last week! why did i comment that ali left?! idk maybe i was too tired to think yesterday LOL.
    last night's was so good. i have no idea who is going to win now but the top 3 are all great

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  12. Try It With Carmella says

    Wednesday, August 8, 2012 at 2:00 pm

    and i also loved how they were saying if ali wins they can make her character into something where you dont even notice the wheelchair- u just notice the character trait.

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