On Monday, we discussed the possible perks and pitfalls of falling in love with someone’s potential, and it got me thinking about what exactly it is that women want when it comes to love and relationships. Now, I’m not talking about a fling; those aren’t the sort of relationships that have any sort of staying power. I’m talking about a relationship that has muster, the kind that is made for the long haul. That’s the kind of relationship I want.
But, beyond that, what am I looking for? And what do women want? I used to think I had it all easily and effortlessly mapped out. Remember when I made The List when I was 17? You know, that loooong list of must-have qualities that said guy in said relationship must possess? Well, I’m starting to realize that list may actually be holding me back more than it’s helping me get ahead. Heck, it hurts my head just re-reading it. How could I ever expect anyone to live up to those sorts of standards? So many times, women hear men ask, “What do women want? I have no idea.” Well, here it is — the Top 3 things I want…
We want you — flaws and all
Flaws, when they’re not too severe or dangerous, mind you, are what makes relationships exciting. They add that extra spark to those fireworks. Someone who is comfortable showing their flaws and vulnerable side is, hands-down, one of the most attractive things in the world to me. It shows that there’s a depth to the relationship that you can build a true foundation on. Besides, what’s so great about normal, anyway? I’m starting to think it’s pretty overrated, to tell you the truth.
We want someone to make us laugh
I’ve said it before: I love, love, love to laugh. I firmly believe a little laughter can go a long way. Wanting to make people laugh shows that you care about their happiness and want to do everything in your power to keep them happy. I become instantly comfortable around a guy who can make me laugh. True, I sometimes may be blushing while I’m laughing, but that’s beside the point. My heart thrives on laughter.
We want someone who listens — actually listens — to us
Life pulls everyone in a million different directions, but taking the time to listen to another person and actually care what they have to say is one of those indispensable traits. We all want to feel validated and understood and valued, don’t we?
There have been movies made about what women want, countless books spouting hundreds of differing theories on the matter. But alas, like many things in life, this is a two-way street. For centuries, women have been wondering what men want. Sometimes, we’re probably right. And then other times? Well, we’re probably painfully wrong. Dead wrong.
So, friends, I’d love to know: What do women want when it comes to love and relationships? What do men want? Do they differ in what’s important to them? Why do you think that is? What do you want? Have your needs and wants changed as you’ve gotten older? xoxo
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