We talked about newlywed life yesterday, so let’s turn the tables today and look at life on the other end of the spectrum: Divorce. Imagine this: After 15 years of marriage, you and your partner are parting ways. Yes, you’ve had your squabbles, but that’s not the way you want to leave things. So, you decide to mark the occasion with a ceremony of sorts. Maybe you both meet at the park where you met. Or maybe you meet for dinner at the restaurant where you had your first date. Whether the end-of-marriage ritual is low-key and simple or more elaborate, one thing is clear: Divorce ceremonies are powerfully cathartic, personal and healing.
A divorcing ceremony. It sounds strange, doesn’t it? The New York Times recently featured an eye-opening piece on divorce ceremonies. Apparently, they are gaining popularity, and experts say these types of rituals are necessary.
“When people get married, they have a wedding ceremony, they’re making vows and promising to be with each other,” said Barbara Biziou, a wedding officiant in Manhattan and the author of Joy of Ritual. “When that dissolves, you need another ceremony to release you from it.”
The article also detailed various divorce ceremonies, from one woman’s symbolic gesture of traveling to Paris and throwing her wedding band into the Seine to a couple in their ’70s who, after 40 years of marriage parted ways by holding a simple ceremony in a labyrinth near the apartment they once shared. They each met in the center and shared memories of their life together.
What about you, friends? Would you ever have a divorce ceremony? Have you had one? Do you know anyone who has? Is it healthy? Does it help leave the marriage on good terms? What would your ceremony look like?
P.S. Jack White has even had a divorcing ceremony, though he called it a divorce party — don’t you love that? 🙂
P.P.S. A new MEMO TO MEN is coming your way shortly!
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