Women’s Heath magazine recently asked this question on its Web site: Is monogamy negotiable?
Honestly, monogamy and negotiable don’t even belong in the same sentence. They’re like magnets that repel each other. There are certain things in life that lend themselves easily to negotiation. Shopping at flea markets. Buying a car. Choosing a restaurant for dinner. Making plans for the weekend. Those things are negotiable.
Love is most definitely not one of those things. Because love isn’t something you can negotiate. You can’t turn it off and on whenever you please like a light switch, your feelings magically disappearing and reappearing at regularly timed intervals.
Besides, if you’re allowing room for negotiation in relationships, isn’t that really just the same thing as a no-string-attached love affair? We all know how well those turn out (cue sarcasm….). Someone always ends up getting emotionally attached (that would probably be me). Someone always ends up falling for the other (that would most likely be me). And someone always has trouble admitting their feelings to the other person (that would most definitely be me).
You can’t choose to be monogamous when it suits you. It’s one of those refreshingly black-and-white things: Either you commit to another person or you don’t. It’s as easy as that. In love – and in life – you should never stand for anything less than you deserve. Do you really think you deserve to be someone’s sloppy seconds?
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