TO: Men all over the planet
RE: The Fantastic Five.
DATE: September 12, 2011
A few months ago, Glamour revealed the six questions guys wish you’d ask them. But you know me, boys: I always love turning the tables. I have this picture of us on a date. Maybe we’re in some fancy schmancy restaurant, talking in hushed whispers over candle light and a bowl of shared bread sticks. Maybe we’re enjoying a walk and an ice cream cone on an oceanside boardwalk. Now, inevitably, the conversation might become a bit slow. I’m guessing that this is especially true if this is our first date; this lull or silence in the conversation could be a bit awkward. After all, it’s not like we would have been dating long enough to become one of those couples who are comfortable in those moments of silence.
So to that end, and to make sure I’m prepared for anything, I’ve come up with a list of questions. These are get-the-ball rolling questions that are to be used when your mind is suddenly a blank slate and you can’t even form a coherent sentence to save your life. They should be used, naturally, as a last resort…
What’s your favorite memory from childhood?
This shows that you care about us enough to want to know about our past. It shows that you’re interested in something more than just the here and now. I’ve always said that you know you’re with a good person when they take an interest in your family. Family is so important to me, and sharing a piece of my childhood with another person is one of the greatest feelings in the world.
Where do you see yourself in 10 years?
Just like the childhood question, asking this one, boys, shows that you are interested in more than just right now. You care about our future. That’s a big thing for me – for someone to care about my hopes and dreams and desires. It’s an all-around thoughtful and sexy question (hmm, can questions even be sexy…?)
How has your disability changed you? What’s the biggest misconception you’ve encountered?
This is a good way to ease into discussing my disability. I used to think I’d hate it if I was put on the spot about my disability on a date, but this sort of question would definitely get me talking. At the very least, it would open up some dialogue about it, and maybe set the guy’s mind at ease a little bit. Plus, it would show a guy’s sensitivity, and I’d have the chance to show him how comfortable I am with my disability.
Favorite: Movie, song, television show?
Just because I have to throw a fun one to help loosen us up a bit more. We can giggle over our cheesy picks because, oh yes, boys, there will be some cheese-tastic moments!
What do you like best about you job?
I love seeing someone get excited just talking about their work, seeing that flicker of joy in their eye, so if you want to put me at ease, boys, this is the way to do it. I could talk for hours about how much I love writing and shaping the journalists of tomorrow. In fact, feel free to stop me if I start monopolizing all the conversation.
The bottom line: Asking the right questions when the conversation grows a bit stale is romantic. Listening with rapt attention is incredibly sexy. I look forward to those early stages of getting to know each other, when everything is new and fresh, and we’re discovering who the other person is. What about you? Are there any questions you think I’ve missed? xoxo
P.S. For the record, the answer is Shag, Fields of Gold and Frasier.
[Photos via My Summer Twist]