Dear Mr. Melissa Blake:
Why do we care so much what other people think? And when do we get to a point where we can confidently say, “Let people say what they will. I won’t let their words hurt me.”?
For some reason, I’ve been thinking about that very question more than usual this week, Sweetpea. I’m guessing you’ll learn pretty quickly after we meet that I, frankly, don’t give a damn what other people think. Honestly, I never knew a feeling could be so liberating. Once you release all the energy that goes along with constantly worrying about how people perceive you, you’d be amazed at how much lighter you feel. You’re free, not in the sense that you’re lowering your expectations for yourself, but in the sense that you’re finally standing up for yourself and not allowing people to have power over you. You can be who you are. You can be who you want to be. It’s almost like you’re finally able to celebrate yourself and be proud of the awesome person you are, you know? Like you don’t have to hide any part of yourself because you’re no longer ashamed or scared of what people might think or say.
But it can be hard to stop listening to the voices of others whispering in our ears, especially when we’re so tempted to heed their words of advice. Sometimes, it seems like those voices are getting louder and louder. They make our head spin. They make us start to feel dizzy. And saddest of all, they make us begin to doubt ourselves.
Together, Sweetpea, I hope we can be one of those couples who doesn’t care what other people think. We can walk with our heads held high and doesn’t give anyone the power to make us feel a certain way. We owe that to ourselves and each other, don’t you think? In the end, life is too short to waste it on people who don’t matter. Until we meet… xoxo
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Dancing Branflake says
This is so how it is! I mean, I feel like my husband is my best friend and it's often us against the world. Not in a morbid or weird sense, but in a way that I know that no matter what he has my back and I have his.
Phoenix Rising says
I wish you had all these letters to your future husband in a book… I would love to give that to my teen daughter. (And some of my adult single friends.)
Wendy says
Yay! 🙂 I love this.
Victoria says
Aww this is just the sweetest thing I've ever read! And so, so true. Are you going to show these letters to your husband once you find him?
Shelby says
Thank you so much for the sweet comment on my blog:) I'd love it if we followed each other!
Shelby xoxo
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Ashley Stone says
love your letters! How different would we all be if we quit worrying about what others thought?
Anonymous says
I wonder what you'd say if a guy you were interested in told you he doesn't date girls in wheelchairs. Would you applaud his honesty or go into one of your little rants about how your disability shouldn't matter? I think you can have a boyfriend if you wanted. But you have to find someone in a similar situation. Someone with many options is going to overlook you like they have for 30 years. A guy with limited options (like yourself) might give you a chance. It's just something to think about.
Melissa Blake says
Phoenix, i've been thinking about publishing these letters, but have to figure out the whole agent thing first. any suggestions? 🙂
Melissa Blake says
hi, victoria, that's the plan! 🙂
Blue says
I love this letter. It made me realize that I need to stop thinking about what others think of my, or at least try to…
Melissa Blake says
exactly, blue! 🙂
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timberdecking says
this is just the sweetest thing I've ever read…………? & I would love to give that to my parents …….
thanks