I’ll be the first to admit that my disability can be an obstacle at first, but I was a bit disheartened by a recent comment. I erased the comment (see the anonymous commenting policy), but the comment stuck with me for some reason, nagging at my heartstrings all day yesterday. It was along these lines:
It’s too much and too selfish to expect someone to see past your disability. Your disability does matter.
Wow. Isn’t that a sad outlook to have, friends? Now, I do partially agree with the part about how my disability does matter. It does. Whether I always like it or not, it is a part of who I am. Heck, it’s literally in my DNA, so there’s not much I can do to change it at this point. And I’m OK with that. But what I’m not OK with? People who are so narrow-minded as to believe that my disability woild be the sole deciding factor in the relationship department. That’s like saying, “Oh, I took one look at her and she’s in a wheelchair. Next.”
I would hope there are guys out there that would look beyond my disability and my wheelchair. And yes, I know that I probably sound like a broken record here, but this is one of the subjects closest to my heart. Would you like to be judged on one aspect of yourself? Yes, it happens. I know that. But whatever happened to going a little deeper and getting to know the real person? Beneath that wheelchair and scars and deformities? I challenge you to give it a try. If only once. At the very least, you won’t be as closed-minded as Mr. Anonymous.
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