Dear Mr. Melissa Blake:
So about our first date. Did it seem daunting to you? I’m sitting here in October 2010, and even though it hasn’t even happened yet, just the idea of it seems incredibly daunting. Well, maybe daunting is too strong of a word. Vomit-inducing? May cause dizziness or drowsiness? Should not handle heavy machinery? Talk to your doctor if you experience any or all of the above?
All I’m certain of is that I know I’m probably going to put a lot of pressure on myself for that all-important (at least in my head…) first date.
But does it really have to be like that? What were you thinking before our first date? Were you as nervous as I was? Knowing me, during the date, I probably tried (maybe without much success) to pretend like I’d gone on thousands of dates, and that you were just one in a line of millions of suitors vying for my precious affections.
But no pressure. Really, Sweetpea. I’m really a pretty laid-back gal once you get to know me. Don’t worry. I won’t expect you to pick me up for our date in some elaborate horse-drawn carriage. I don’t even care if you bring me flowers; in fact, the whole flowers thing might be a bit on the nose, don’t you think? What I do want is for our first date to be a low-key chance for us to get to know each other. So to that end, here are my Top 3 Date Ideas (feel free to look at me now and tell me if I’m completely off base):
Ice Cream Date
I love ice cream. Maybe a bit too much. So how awesome would it be to get a scoop of our favorite flavor and just sit in a little ice cream shop, talking and laughing? There wouldn’t be the pressure of sitting in some schmancy romantic restaurant trying to make awkward small-talk over candlelight and straining our eyes to read the menu that we can barely read because of said candlelight. With ice cream, we don’t have to be serious.
Stroll Through The Park Date
Well, you’ll stroll and I’ll roll. I love walking through the park in the fall when the leaves are changing and there’s a crispness to the air. Or, in the spring, when all the flowers are blooming and the weather is heating up. Or, in the summer when we can stop and relax in the sun. OK, basically, I enjoy walking (oops, rolling…) in any season except winter. I love the idea of it being just the two of us (Oh, and that’s a prerequisite for the entire date in general, Sweetpea), no hand-holding on date number uno, of course, but don’t be surprised if I just happen to talk your ear off.
County Fair Date
I’ve never been to one. In my entire life. Sad, I know, considering I pride myself on being such a Midwestern gal. But it’s true. I’ve never tasted pie from the pie-judging contest. I’ve never plucked pink cotton candy from a stick while staring down at the festivities from the top of a ferris wheel. And I’ve certainly never won a giant stuffed panda because of my dart-throwing skills. I’d love love to share this new experience with you, Sweetpea.
What do you think, Sweetpea? How did our actual, real-time first date compare to the ones I have playing in my head? Oh, and just one more date stipulation: Please don’t send me any mixed signals. If we’re on a date, i want to know we’re on a date. I’ve had great date debate before. it wasn’t very exciting. Or relaxing. Or laid-back. Until we meet… xoxo
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This is so cute — makes me think about my first date with my husband! We definitely went on a few semi-dates before our first real date… and it was for ice cream. 🙂
Aw, the semi-dates-before-the-first-real-date idea is a lovely one – it also happened to me (and yes, strolling and ice cream were very much involved :)), and it seems people do go (and enjoy going) down that route!
A House and Home says
All of the above sound like fun. Why no hand holding on the first date? If you both want to, why not? It's not like you'll be taking advantage of each other and yet, if the feeling strikes you, it's so intimate and exciting. If you like someone, you may not be able to control the fact that you want to hold his hand and he wants to hold yours. Why hold back?
Laura Marie says
Aw I love this one 🙂 Looking back on my boyfriend and I's first date, I always laugh… We were so nervous!
I can't wait til you look back on these letters someday with your future husband.. how fun!
I love this idea 🙂
It reminds me of the movie 'Definitely, Maybe' – you can never know who you're going to end up with and looking back will be very strange. It's also nice to know that there's so much possibility in who your (and my!) mr right will be 🙂
love, z xxxx
Ice Cream Date sounds so nice, I could go for one of those 🙂
I think a country fair would be a perfect first date! It reminds me of The Notebook. :]
Dancing Branflake says
You have never been to the State Fair? Oh dear! That is the ultimate romantic date fantasy! With fireworks and hay rides, what could be better?
Melissa Blake says
Katy, a semi-first date sounds perfect!
Melissa Blake says
Zsara, I'll have to put definitely, maybe on my netflix queue!
Tanya (a Taste of T) says
I'm a fan of all three dates but I say Fair…there you can combine corn dogs and ice cream and I would LOVE both right now. In fact, if you lived in Austin, I'd say lets go on a date 🙂
Oh my gosh, what an adorable post! More, please, more!
Thanks for sharing this link, but unfortunately it seems to be offline… Does anybody have a mirror or another source? Please answer to my post if you do!
I would appreciate if a staff member here at melissabxoxo.blogspot.com could post it.
so cute 🙂 I had this kind of dates with my boyfriend too! Actually, I want to have soon again ice cream date, even we have been together for 4 years already 🙂
Poor Fish Girl says
I love all three ideas- fun and innocent.
Melissa Blake says
Thanks, Tanya! I've actually never been to Texas.
I love the sound of an icecream date! So innocent and carefree!
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Melissa Blake says
Ahhhhhh! Dionne! Emailing now!! 🙂
Fickle Cattle says
This is lovely. And ice cream dates rock. Anything with ice cream does.
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