You know I’m not afraid to admit it. I’ve never had my first kiss. I know, I know. This may very well shock you, considering how soft and beautiful my lips are, not to mention the fact I seem so worldly.
*Cue smile and laugh
But seriously, friends, I feel sort of teenager-ish even asking this. Oh, well. Are first kisses everything they’re cracked up to be? It’s like you keep waiting (or in my case, really, really waiting…) and waiting for this one moment that is supposed to be a significant milestone in your life, and then maybe it’s not? Maybe it turns out to be nothing like you expected. Or maybe it turns out to be so much more than you could ever dream of? I suppose the person you’re with has a lot to do with it.
My first kiss? I don’t want to rush it. It may make me old-fashioned, but I want to share it with someone who is going to make me remember it years from now and smile. Now, whether I’m smiling because it was so utterly romantic or because it was so utterly awkward is an entire different story. That, my friends, is anyone’s guess at the moment.
When he danced he held me tight
and when he walked me home that night
all the stars were shining bright
and then he kissed me…
…He kissed me in a way that I’ve never been kissed before,
he kissed me in a way that I wanna be kissed forever more.
So you go from your first kiss seemlessly to your wedding day. Now, I’m quite certain things work a bit differently. 
And then he’s blush. xoxo
P.S. Maybe there’s a class on this that I can take? You know, the kind that use test dummies and whatnot.
P.P.S. Couldn’t resist that Hershey’s Kiss photo! 🙂
[Photos via We Heart It]
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Phoenix Rising says
My first kiss? I was eating an ice cream sandwich and the older boy next to me leaned over and kissed me. He didn't even like me. He pushed so hard he hit my teeth with his teeth – and let me tell you, that HURTS. Then he said, "You should wipe that chocolate off your mouth" since in the act the chocolate sandwichy part had smeared into the corners of my mouth. Not romantic in the least.
Ashley says
My VERY first kiss was…well it was awkward and sloppy, I don't think the kid every swallowed lol. But he was a good friend and though it was awkward, the memory makes me smile.
My first kiss with my now husband is one I will always remember. As lame and corny (read romantic lol) as it sounds, I saw fireworks. It wasn't deep and lingering, it was sweet and made my toes curl, if we're being honest. =)
I agree, don't rush it — it's amazing whether it's romantic or not, it will make you smile.
Sarah says
mine was super awkward as well 🙂 third and fourth kisses are much better haha
Melissa Blake says
So maybe there is an actual first kiss and then a real, real first kiss…the one that does give you those fireworks.
I like that idea! 🙂
RedHead says
I think kissing is amazing with whoever you kiss! Kissing is the best! Or atleast from my little experience, I think it is! In my experience, kissing puts you and your partner in this perfect sync like there is nothing else going on in the moment other than concentrating on this extremely intimate event! It will be all that you imagine it will be and I can't wait to hear all about it when it happens!
JessicaDoesMakeup says
I'm with you on waiting, i've never kissed anyone either. Can't wait though 😀
Anonymous says
Now THIS is the sort of stuff I love to read on this blog. Your honesty is so refreshing and I love how you have no problem discussing things that most people would shy away from once they've reached their 20's. But seemingly youthful topics, like kissing, are fun to talk about at any age!
My first kiss was nothing to write home about. I was tipsy and in the backseat of a friend's car. (ugh, embarrassing) BUT, the first kiss my now husband and I shared was pure magic. Actually, the moment when he leaned in was the most amazing feeling. My heart was beating so fast and I felt as though I had lost the ability to breathe-but in a good way. And then as soon as our lips touched, my heart felt like it was going to jump right out of my chest. It was amazing. That kiss will never be recreated, but I'll always remember it. You're so lucky to still have that first kiss to look forward to.
Signe says
My first kiss was more awkward than amazing to be honest!
Maybe it will be a lot better for you though since you are no longer in your teens and waiting for mister right 🙂
Melissa Blake says
Jessica, we both have something to look forward to!
vintagegirl says
i remember when i was in high school and my friends would sit around and want to chat about the first boy they kissed and when it finally got around to me i always said " nope. im still waiting for my prince charming" i don't squander my kisses 😉
i will be turning 20 in a few months and i have still never been kissed. and i am fine with that. i am still waiting for my mr. right.
p.s. when i saw the title of your post i started humming the song and i L-O-V-E that you added the son/lyrics to your post!! i love you!!!!!
hugs, love and waiting on first kisses,
megan
xo
Jodie Eileen ツ says
I've never been kiss to tell you the truth and I'm happy about that 🙂 I think I want to wait untill I (1. really love the guy, or (2. am engaged, because I want my first kiss to be with the one I'll have forever 🙂
Susan says
My first kiss was nothing big to write home about. It was in his mom's driveway and I was about to go home. I remember getting in my car to go home and thinking "That's it?". Well that was it but I'll also say that it gets better with practice so practice a lot! 🙂
Anna Walker says
hahaha my first kiss doesn't really count…(or I don't want it to) my 2nd first kiss was lovely, in front of a lake at sunset in Switzerland…♥ amazing! Ha my last first kiss…well don't be drunk.
If you were to kiss a guy first…if you like him A LOT go for it!!! 🙂 I have heard that they do like girls making the first move sometimes! Just listen to Weezer's song "Girl, if you wondering if I want you to (I want you to)"
IT sums it up 🙂
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Melissa Blake says
That's one of my favorite songs, vintage. It's in my head now too!!
These are awesome comments. It looks like my second kiss is the one I should look forward to! 🙂
Anonymous says
To be honest, I don't even remember my first kiss that well, and it was with a guy I really liked at the time. But compared to any of the kisses I've had with my now boyfriend it's not even worth trying to remember. So when you get kissed for the first time just have fun and go with it. It might be life changing, it might not. First kisses are kind of like first impressions- take them with a grain of salt.
Laura
Dancing Branflake says
Spin the bottle was my first kiss. Not exciting when it's forced by where you are sitting. First real kiss? Gee, I can't even remember!
Meandu says
My first kiss was good but not quite what I expected. I have been told that quite often that is the way it is. I think because you fantasize about it and then when it happens it doesn't go the way you had dreamed it should be. Thanks for sharing the Crystals song And Then He Kissed Me. I had forgotten how much I really liked this.
sobinique says
The person you're with does have a lot to do with it indeed! My first kiss was an organised thing and really boring… It's so much better when you kiss someone you are deeply in love with! Just wait for that one..
Stacey says
My first kiss wasn't like what i had read in those Mills and Boon or Harlequin novels. No fireworks at all.. xx
A House and Home says
I agree with your idea about there being a "first kiss" that's your real first kiss that probably is pretty awkward, embarassing or at least not very enjoyable…and then there being a "first kiss" that's like, oh, yeah, this feels right…and people will disagree with me on this, but I even think it could be with the same person!
Bibi says
I love kissing. It's definitely one of my favorite things to do. My first kiss was during a summer school trip to Spain. I was 15. My classmates and I were joined on our educational tour by classes from a couple other states. One night when we were in Barcelona, everyone went out and me and one of the guys from another school stayed in the hotel playing cards and watching TV with a couple other students. At one point we were laying on one of the beds talking and then he leaned down and kissed me. That was definitely an incredible way to have a first kiss and although it didn't last since we lived half a country away, it still makes me smile to think of it. As for your case, one of my best friends has also never been kissed (she's 25) and in all honesty, there's no rush. You have to do what feels right and maybe your first kiss won't be magic, but eventually you will have a magical kiss, whether it's your 1st or your 65th. 🙂
Jude says
I admit I can't remember my first kiss (a sure sign it was pretty forgettable!), but I remember my first *real* kiss. P.S. Loved this post!
Erin says
My first kiss was in an arcade…I was 13. You can just imagine how romantic that was, lol. All in all, it wasn't a bad experience. I kissed that same guy all through junior high and a lot of high school. It only gets better from the first, Melissa.
Unless one or both of you has had too much to drink. Then it only gets messy.
Okay…sometimes that makes kissing fun too. 😉
Len♥reNeverM♥re says
My first kiss was not romatic at all, he almost chip my tooth!! haha…
Great evening Melissa!
kisses* to you!
Anonymous says
My first kiss was with my first boyfriend – I was older when I had all of those 'firsts' (22) and I don't remember it being awkward (though I'm sure it was a bit). It was a hot summer night, at the end of my second date ever and afterward he ducked his head in an embarrassed way, but he was sweetly pleased with himself. I was head over heels in that moment.
The relationship only lasted a year (long distance is just about the hardest thing) but to this day I count him as my best friend, and even though I didn't share my first kiss with my husband, I'm glad I was able to share it with someone who turned out to be so important to my life.
Thanks for bringing up first kisses! I hadn't thought of mine in so long, its a nice memory to get lost in 🙂
ag. says
What an honest post. I love that about your blog.
My first kiss was not all that it's cracked up to be…to be honest, my memory of it seems to be fading so it couldn't have been that good. However, my first kiss with my now-husband was truly memorable…romantic, no but memorable, yes and I think that's what's important. That's the only first kiss that matters to me now because I share it with the one I love the most. I definitely think that the one you share it with has more to do with it being a significant momemnt than the fact that it's your actually first kiss. I hope your first, second and wedding day kisses are all you've been waiting for!…or at least good stories to tell! 🙂
ps LOVE the hersey kiss photo!
lisaroyhandbags says
My first kiss was from a guy in my class when I was 13. It was awkward, and it wasn't soft and gentle or romantic – our teeth actually hit together! I wasn't really crazy about him and I think someone dared him to do it!
My first kiss with my now-husband was magical and it's a moment truly memorable and romantic. And it's all that matters because his lips are the only ones I want to kiss for the rest of my life. 🙂 xo
THE ALTERNATIVE WIFE says
Isn't it so horrible that I don't even remember my first kiss? I used to be the kissing girl in 1st grade and I would run around on the playground and chase the boys to try to kiss them. I don't think I actually landed any of them. And I actually feel really bad for the boys that I tortured way back when. Sorry guys 🙂
My most meaningful kiss happened 24 years ago with the love of my life who I'm now married to. When it's with the right person it's memorable.
xoxo
Punctuation Mark says
just get it over with… don't think about it too much… some are great and some are not but once you are over the first one all the rest and a lot of fun and fantastic… good luck and don't be afraid!
Queen of Crafts, Current Events, and Such. says
My first french kiss was with an older guy….Handsome…It was nice….Then he dumped me
The Boob Nazi says
Totally not what I expected. AT ALL. It was kind of lame.
laurabee1991 says
My first kiss is definitely NOT a cherished memory. A grade nine boyfriend that lasted for about a month, he'd kissed a lot of girls before I'd even started dating. It kind of just happened. My first kiss with The Boyfriend however. That memory still makes me smile, simply because of how perfect it was. I think it really just matters who it's with.
Molly says
My first kiss was not nearly not as good as the kisses that followed it. I am still with the guy who gave me my first kiss (it was only a few months ago), but even though the first one was very awkward, I am so glad I shared it with him. He is so special, and no matter what happens, I will always treasure him, and that first kiss. We have had many more great ones since then! 🙂
lifebytesrealstories says
Wow…first kiss,that brings back memories. Mine was during a game of spin-the-bottle (does that count?) I was so shy and dorky that all I could do was gag and blush. On second thought, maybe I don't want to remember that!! LOL
thanks for a great post…totally made me smile!
this girl called jake. says
I'm pretty much one of the very, very few seniors at my high school that hasn't had even so much as a quick kiss on the cheek from a boy. My friends are constantly trying to 'hook me up' with guys so I can get the experience, but I refuse.
I'm waiting for the right one too, so it'll be special. Everyone thinks I'm crazy, but I don't mind 🙂
(Though a class with dummies you could use…that actually sounds like a good idea!)
christine says
I think first kisses are over-rated. My first kiss was sloppy, wet and well, gross. But a first kiss with the right guy, now that is worth waiting for.
🙂 Christine
~Azucar~ says
Hey Melissa~~!
Hehehe… it took me until last fall… until I was 26… to have my first kiss… and it was with this guy I should probably should have had my first kiss with back in my high school days. It's funny how things work. But I too am a "late bloomer" there are things I guess I should have probably experienced, but haven't. Sometimes I am like Why haven't I already?! hahaha. OMG.
Iris Jaye says
My first kiss! I was honestly saving it for a magical moment which, like you said, I'd look back on years from now and smile. Didn't happen. It was stolen from me and, though I never complained since the guy was important to me, I wasn't too happy about 🙁
April says
my first kiss was about as awkward as you can get. it was with my then-boyfriend when I was 14 or 15, we were sitting in front of his house. I kissed him and then goes, "mmm tasty." not even joking! it was so awkward, and I'm glad he's not my boyfriend anymore :p but hey, not many first kisses are perfect and it doesn't mean every other kiss won't be great! 🙂
Tonia says
Honey, there is no such thing as a romantic, perfect first kiss – I'm still waiting for mine and I've been married for 3 years!
That said, I hope you get one.
Nicole says
I totally agree! After all, every girl can only have one first kiss right? It's best to make it as memorable and meaningful as you can!
Melissa Blake says
Alternative wife — love how you termed it the first "meaningful one"! That seems to be how it is for a lot of people.
Melissa Blake says
I loooove reading everyone"s story! Thanks so much for sharing!
Anonymous says
My first kiss was at age 20 with a boy I didn't even know. HOWEVER, the first time a boy I acutally *liked* kissed me? I was 23. I will forever remember it as the best kiss of my life, even though he is long out of the picture. This sounds silly but kissing is not easy when you don't know how/never have done it! It took me a while. So don't worry about it 🙂
Emma says
This song just came up on Pandora after I read this post. Funny!
http://www.pandora.com/music/song/cake+sale/some+surprise
Evie says
I remember my first kiss was during a game of spin the bottle where I had claimed that I had "totally done this before." HA! Needless to say it was not all it was cracked up to be. But I do remember my first kiss with my boyfriend now and it was WONDERFUL! He kissed me after he walked me home one night and I wrote my number on his hand (so cliche!) but I should have been able to tell by that first kiss that there was something special about him! I guess the moral here is that it depends on the person, at least thats my opinion!
Kris says
honestly, my first kiss was awful. really. this guy and i had just gone out for a date and he was dropping me off at home. as i was getting out of the car (a jeep wrangler, mind you, so making a graceful exit was a little tough in the first place) he grabbed my face and tried to kiss me. unfortunately, he missed horribly and instead, he managed to basically bite my face off.
advice: number 1, when trying to go in for a romantic kiss, make sure your mouth isnt open.
number 2, it's also best to make sure that your date isnt already out of the car and standing on the pavement. number 3, work on your aim. lips, tongue and teeth are not supposed to meet the side of my face all at the same time.
i went home and bawled my eyes out while my sister fed me chocolate for an hour.
luckily, the future kisses (with other guys) were quite lovely 🙂
take your time with things and remember- no matter how fantastic/awful your first kiss is, it will always be one you remember 🙂
The Faux Trixie says
My first kiss was scandalous. I was 14 and it was on the golf course behind my friend's house, who was having his end of the year pool party. It was with a boy who liked me, and had for some time, but who I was lukewarm towards. We were hanging out together the whole night and decided to "take a walk." Of course, the resulted in a heavy make out session that I had to stop because he tried to go up my shirt!
Adolescent boys are always a tad too eager.
Have Myelin? says
I'm 55 years old and my first kiss was long, long time ago. I'm sure it was memorable THEN but I don't remember it. =)
I met my current boyfriend at the worse time in my life. It is till that way because my 34 year old daughter died June 10, 2009 out of the blue. I met my boyfriend one week to the day after her wake. It is hard to explain (I won't try) but there is a connection between her death and my boyfriend even though they have never met. Without him I don't know if I would be … well, as okay as I am now.
I also have a disability. Three of them in fact. MS, deafness and renal insuffiency.
The odd thing is… I don't remember our first kiss. What I do remember is him simply being THERE for me. Helping me find my way back to this … world I have to live in without my daughter.
And that's the sweetest kiss of all. =)
bill says
Any kiss, first or most recent, is never how you imagine it, because the event depends on how much the other person will contribute. It's like dancing in that regard. You have a really good partner, then you get concentration and variety. If you don't then it can be a slow going, go through the motions thing.
If you kiss somebody that has literal and otherwise chemistry with you, then the sum will exceed the parts, and both people get transported into a chemical bonding oblivion that feels beyond good.
It is much more fun than having intercourse, which can be very complicated and doesn't deliver as much emotion and pleasure as kissing does.
Anything that gives so much pleasure that performing it in public leads to a jail cell, (in some countries), then you're messing with pretty powerful vibrations.
bill says
Any kiss, first or most recent, is never how you imagine it, because the event depends on how much the other person will contribute. It's like dancing in that regard. You have a really good partner, then you get concentration and variety. If you don't then it can be a slow going, go through the motions thing.
If you kiss somebody that has literal and otherwise chemistry with you, then the sum will exceed the parts, and both people get transported into a chemical bonding oblivion that feels beyond good.
It is much more fun than having intercourse, which can be very complicated and doesn't deliver as much emotion and pleasure as kissing does.
Anything that gives so much pleasure that performing it in public leads to a jail cell, (in some countries), then you're messing with pretty powerful vibrations.
Melissa Blake says
thanks for those tips, kris!! 🙂
sophie isabelle says
My first kiss was awkward, on a bus and the boy in question tried to shove his tongue into my mouth and ended up licking my chin…
not exactly great, or firework inducing. i still cringe to this day whilst thinking about it…
to be honest the first kiss with my boy now, i consider my first. it was amazing… sweet and impatient, toe curling and just… good. haha.
i love that you're waiting. 🙂
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