Our resident guyspert Kasey is back today, friends. I asked him to write about murky waters of mixed signals, seeing as, well, I seem to be clueless about them. Hope you enjoy! xoxo
Why do guys send mixed signals?
Excellent question. I will attempt to answer it
First, I don’t think that there are any mixed signals, just mixed-up people.
We’re all familiar with signals for affection: a touch, a smile, compliments, etc. But many people who give those signs of affection just turn around and don’t smile, have closed body language or don’t say anything – sometimes within 5 minutes!
I would argue that people are just plain indecisive. There is obviously something there that attracts them, be it your eyes, laugh, smile, or body. They want to be near you and they want to get to know you better. But they also want to have an out if something goes wrong. So they turn right around and send signals of dislike/friendship/disinterest, and it is freakin’ confusing!!
What happens, then, is you are just plain confused. And let me welcome you to the club. All you can really do at that point is grab the person, sit them down and have a little chat. If you’re confused by signals, talk to the person. Of course, you might be disappointed; you might also get exactly what you’re looking for.
[Photo via Le Love]
Love in the Dumps says
Good post. I completely agree with the indecisive part.
Melanie's Randomness says
I agree with the indecisive part. It took 4 years of mixed signals with an ex to realize that he was just a confused boy that had NO clue what he wanted. Very observant Kasey. I agree with just biting the bullet and having a lil chat. The confusion can drive ya nuts!!