Erika of the insanely addictive blog Café Fashionista has long been one of my resources for an excellent lesson in style, shopping and fashion. This week, she gives us a lesson in both love and fashion. How’s that for talent? xoxo
Kitty cats, it is not my intention for you to misunderstand me; after all, if there is anyone who considers the sudden appearance of a cute boy to be synonymous with the ability to eat as many cupcakes as one’s heart desires without having to worry about the calories settling about the waistline, it is me. Whether you want to admit it or not, cute boys retain the ability to make life more cheery and fun with their lopsided grins, cow-licked hair, and penchant for texting a quick “what’s up?” at the most unexpected of moments. Then again, handbags are oftentimes capable of the very same thing – sans the flirty texts, that is!
I know it sounds bizarre, even preposterous, perhaps – but it’s truly not. Boys and bags share many of the same qualities with one another. It just takes a bit of searching to unearth them.
While a bag doesn’t have the capability to pay for the luxurious lobster dinner at the four-star restaurant you just HAD to try out, the cute boy, as far too many of us have learned over the years, is frequently too stingy to part with his hard-earned money to wine and dine his date du jour, a girl who obviously deserves to be impressed and treated like a princess every once in awhile. The difference between the two, however, is that while the bag will continue to be the apple of our eye – a partner in crime as we navigate the world of dating, you may even say – the boy will commonly be viewed as an obnoxious individual who cramps our style, and it won’t be long before we realize that we deserve better and must find someone else.
But darlings, that is not where the similarities end. There are other areas where handbags and boys compete with one another – areas that are very valuable for you to determine how things will play out in your life, and whether or not you should settle for the boy…or the bag.
Eeny, meeny, miny, moe
I abhor even having to state this, but, though we would love to simply snap our fingers and have the boy of our choosing, be it celebrity or buff-cute-boy-next-door-whom-you-are-forced-to-watch-parade-a-bevy-of-model-worthy-beauties-through-his-life-like-a-revolving-door, so is not possible. Yes, we can choose who piques our interest, select individuals who make butterflies flit through our tummies uncontrollably and make goo-goo eyes at anyone and everyone. The problem is that if they do not share in our affections, they are out of the running, and we are left in the lurch. Such a problem is not a part of choosing a handbag. Love the Marc by Marc Jacobs Stam Satchel? Buy it! Infatuated with the Balenciaga Giant City? Splurge! Yes, it may take some time to save up enough to make these pretties ours, but they are obtainable over time. Not every boy is.
Stand By Me
The problem with many boys is the disappearing act that so many of them seem to be well acquainted with. Things are fine. You are both spending quite a bit of time texting one another, sipping coffee at Starbucks, then poof! Like a magic genie who dissipates from your life after your three wishes have been granted, the boy simply falls off the face of the Earth, never to be heard from again. In some cases (i.e. when the individual in question is one of the so-called “bad boys”) this is a welcome revelation; in all others, you can’t help but find yourself questioning what you did wrong, and placing all blame on yourself. With a handbag, this is not a worry, for your chic counterpart is always there to keep you company. You may cast her aside for months on end in favor of a new beauty. But she is always there waiting for you to return, and willing to add a posh pinch of pizazz to your ensemble whenever you need her.
My loves, just as there are boys who are undeserving of your affections wandering aimlessly about Planet Earth, there are handbags guilty of the very same crime. Once you have settled upon perfection in one area, however, it is nearly impossible not to fall upon something fantastical in the other; and at that time, it will no longer be that the bag is competing with the boy. Rather, the bag and the boy will be a packaged deal that work as one to make you shine like the brightest star in the sky!
Good luck, my loves. Something magical is on the horizon!
[Photos via We Heart It]