Tales From The Trenches: Tale #30

Our resident Guyspert, Kasey, is back with more of his awesome tips. And yes, I’ve taken to calling him our Guyspert. What do you think, friends? xoxo

Rule #53
Don’t Kiss & Tell

Do not talk about your ex-girlfriends. Do not talk about what happened in the bedroom the other night. Do not talk about your past dating history.

If the person you are going out with asks you specific questions, don’t lie. Lying, as we all know, gets people into trouble. Including you. But use some tact, for goodness sakes!!

Using tact includes NOT saying things to your friends about which base you may or may not have made it to. It’s none of their business. I’m not saying don’t talk to your friends; I’m just saying that the easiest way to keep a secret is to not tell anyone. Remember: Tact, silence, and smiles!!

Rule #67
Don’t Hold Grudges

You will sabotage yourself if you hold a grudge. If you have a problem with someone, you need to go talk to them about it. Use your words. Resolve it if you can (sometimes you can’t). If you do resolve the issue, then let it go. There is nothing worse than when someone brings up a mistake you made 6 months ago and tries to use it as a manipulation tool. When it’s over, it’s over.

For example, there was one instance where my girlfriend (at the time) was flirting with a mutual friend of ours. It bothered me. So, a bit later, I just asked, “Hey, do you like that guy?”

She laughed for about 20 minutes straight, then said, “No way!”

“Then why do you flirt with him?”

“I don’t know. I guess that’s just how we get along.”

“OK, well it kind of makes me jealous and bothers me slightly. Could you stop?”

“Oh, sure. Sorry.”

“Thanks! (smiles)”

Problem resolved. Now, if I were the grudge-holding type, I could have continually brought up that episode whenever I wanted to guilt-trip her into doing something for me. But that would just be horrible, awful, and lame.

If you want to have a good, healthy relationship, don’t hold a grudge!!

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