Love Lounge: Dating Site Discrimination?

Have you heard about all the controversy surrounding BeautifulPeople.com’s letting go of some 5,000 member’s from its dating site?

Apparently, it doesn’t enjoy it when people enjoy the holidays, and, well, let it show. If it wasn’t hard enough to get into this exclusive club (those wishing to join the site must go through a rigorous evaluation period, a period in which I’m fairly certain a freckle in the wrong place could get your in the denied pile), TheFrisky reports that owners of the site recently went on a purging spree, encouraging expelled members to reapply “ ‘when they’re looking their best’ and go through the rating process again.”
“As a business, we mourn the loss of any member, but the fact remains that our members demand the high standard of beauty be upheld. Letting fatties roam the site is a direct threat to our business model and the very concept for which BeautifulPeople.com was founded,” says the site’s owner.

Oh, BeautifulPeople owner, you sly charming fellow. You had me at fatty.
Maybe you should change your name to BeautifulPeople (unless-you gain-a-minimun-of-10-pounds-then-you’re-just-too-hopeless).com. Though that might be too long of a URL for people to remember…

A note to the world over: YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. DON’T EVER LET ANYONE TELL YOU OTHERWISE.

It saddens me. It makes me angry. It makes me think this world is getting even more superficial and fake and evil and snarky. And it all scares me.

Is this discrimination? What do you think, friends?

[Photos via We Heart It]


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  2. Lauren says

    Yes, it's shallow, but discrimination? Hardly.
    It's called a preference. Some people prefer a certain type of look. This isn't discrimination, it's just their preference, and what they're attracted to.

    Are dating websites for only those with body modifications, pets, or those over 50 discriminating? No, they're catering towards their clientele's preferences. Same with dating websites with any other "theme".

    Their "theme" just happens to strike a nerve because it's not politically correct to discount someone as a potential mate because they're a "fatty".

    (And, FTR, I'm a "fatty", and would probably fail their rating system too. I'm OK with that, though, because one of my preferences is not a "banging body".)

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  4. ShannonDBR says

    Absollutely! That's just crazy to me. Too many people are judgemental & impose those judgements on others.

    I am disabled & use a powerchair to get around. Far too many people who meet me, judge me on what they see rather than who I am.

    And it is to those people that I say, sorry – your loss & move along. Life is just short to be preoccupied with shallow people.

    I am, proud to say, am not shallow. Even if I was single, I would not be near that site, just on principle alone & chances are if they are on that site in the first place looking for a mate, they wouldn't be for me.

    There is so much more to people than what is on the outside, one just has to look a deeper.

    Stop by & say hi sometime.

    Blessings,
    Shannon

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  5. Genie of the Shell says

    It looks like a superficial website, a place to find an ego boost (or destruction), a way to judge other people harshly through the "safety" of virtual ratings, and maybe a hot "date," but not love or an actual relationship.

    It's like hotornot.com. The title says it all: "Don't look for human kindness here. We are only interested in a narrow and cruel standard of beauty, and people interested in judging each other's appearance."

    Of course it's judgmental and not open to all forms of beauty… and not worth anyone's time or worries who is not shallow and vain!

    Interestingly, I have friends who have had bad luck on sites who cater only to plus-size women. If there is a physical appearance standard to the dating site (whether that's "skinny and perfect" or "plus size only" or whatever), people seeking a preferred BODY are going to go there, not people seeking a type of PERSON, and you'll meet a lot of skeezeballs. If you want to meet someone seeking a soul mate or a partner or even a serious date, skip ANY site based on a physical description.

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  6. Lauren says

    Physical attraction is a big part of a relationship, though. If you're not physically attracted to each other, it's just not going to work.

    I'm attracted to only bigger guys, and as shallow as it may seem, I won't look twice at a skinny guy. I have known skinny guys, and been good friends with them, but I am just not attracted to them sexually, so it never went anywhere besides good friends.

    Sites based on physical appearance of some kind simply cater to what their clients are attracted to. If they're deficient in personality, that's not an index of their looks – skinny and stunningly beautiful people are just as intelligent than fat and ugly people.

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  7. Novelista Barista says

    OMFG that is insane. such bullshit. i mean some people out there are so fucked up!!!!!!!!!!!
    That is complete discrimination… but i mean, if you signed up for it then you should already know what your getting urself into… but for real people?!?!!? i cant believe they even have a website for that shit…. ridiculous!

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  8. dinosaur toes says

    That is terrible! I just looked at the site and saw the bit that asked, "Too ugly to sign up?" Seriously, we all have different ideas of beautiful. I'd hate to see when the site owner ages and becomes a fatty himself…

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  9. Girl Japan: April Marie says

    I think many of us, although we may not admit it base judgement on appearance not all the time… but having a partner is a whole package and that includes looks… if you love one aspect about a person more so than another aspect.. it ties up…

    I don't think it is discrimination.. I don't think I'd date a guy with man boobs… but to call someone a fatty 10lbs overweight is a bit superficial…

    Although… those who join it I think have serious complexes about themselves and need some form of validation.

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  12. Anna says

    Yikes. i hate THAT. i hate the idea of that website in general. how shallow & sad!

    we don't need a site to tell us all we are beautiful, because you know what! we already know we all are!
    xo-

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  13. Anonymous says

    this site sucks! it's PURE DISCRIMINATION! i bet the owner of BP is discriminated while he's at a younger age! psycho dude! pure bullshit website. Your website doesnt even belong to "BEAUTIFUL WEBSITE . com " coz it keeps on hanging and disconnecting! heeellooo! wake up BP! u'r no beautiful!

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  34. Anonymous says

    As a variation on a theme….is it discriminatory for Seeking Arrangement to require login address to match registration address for sugarbabies and boys while sugardaddies and mommies (ie the wealthy 'donors')can register one zone and login form anywhere they like?

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