You don’t mind if I take Tale #13 for myself, do you? It’s not being entirely selfish because I do need your input. As usual, I’m a bit clueless and still a bit behind my peers in this whole language of love thing (has anyone written that Book of Love for me yet?).
So here’s the deal: My friend knows this guy (let’s call him Rico Suave, because honestly, he is pretty damn smoooth), and for some reason unbeknownst to my friend (she’s, well, a bit naive, if you will), she cannot, cannot, cannot censor herself when she’s around Mr. Suave. He’s like some sort of mind-altering drug that leads my friend to say things to him she wouldn’t say to anyone else – and even things she probably shouldn’t be saying to Mr. Suave. My friends tells me it’s a delicate situation, and could say no more (apparently, the guy wasn’t around at the time…). But she did admit every conversation she has with this guy is one giant “so about what I said…” moment that she tends to replay over and over – and over – in her head.
My question for you, friends: How do you keep yourself from saying the wrong thing, short of taping your mouth shut whenever you’re around that guy? As I said, my friend could really use the insight here.
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Rachel says
I guess I've never been good at censoring myself. I've been told I'm brutally honest, and even abrasive. I feel like saying what you mean, and saying what you feel, is the best way to know who your real friends are. and who your real boyfriends are. So tell your 'friend' that if Rico can't handle someone being real, maybe she should find someone who can.
Seyma says
well, it's really tough actually but i really can't remember if i could cencor myself :/ cause it was a really really long time ago *sigh*
but no i guess i couldn't cencor myself either.. shit!!
love.
Faux Trixie says
The best advice I can give is that you just don't say what you're thinking. If you're concerned about it, and you think it could lead to something awkward, you just subconsciously tell yourself not to say it.
It's pretty much the same philosophy you would use in a job interview or around your parents.
Viewtiful_Justin says
Just say it. You'ven ever been one to NOT speak your mind, Mel. Why start now? If he's going to like you, he'll have to appreciate your candor.
Why change?
Cafe Fashionista says
That's a toughie. I'll be honest, I just get really quiet – which is probably even worse than just blurting anything out. Once I become comfortable with people though, it usually goes away.
I think that it's better to let your true self shine through. I've said some crazy things to boys in the past – like literally babbled on and on about inane stuff – and then worried about it later on. But you know what? It didn't change anything – if they liked me, they still did; and if they didn't, their loss. 🙂
Kris says
That's a tough one. I think one just really needs to understand if what they are doing is getting them anywhere positive. I know… I'm vague!
Pepe Fanjul says
The best advice I can give is that you just don't say what you're thinking. If you're concerned about it……
crowdSPRING says
I feel like saying what you mean, and saying what you feel, is the best way to know who your real friends are. and who your real boyfriends are.