I’ll just say it: There’s something incredibly sexy about a male virgin. He oozes with sex appeal, though he’s never actually hit the sheets with a women.
Is that weird of me to think that? Am I avoiding some subconscious, repressed memories or something?
A man who chooses to remain a virgin is respected, revered, sometimes even praised. A woman who chooses to remain a virgin is abnormal, weird and in desperate need of some type of intervention. Stat.
But then again, society does seem to prefer women virgins. What’s up with that? What do you think?
Maybe this whole thing is really just about me. Maybe I’d feel more comfortable around a male virgin, for obvious reasons. Would I feel less intimidated? Would I not feel like the only innocent one in the room?
I’m not quite sure, exactly, but there’s something quite enticing about exploring that realm with someone who’s on the same journey, you know? Like something so private that only the two of you share. Together.
xoxo,
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AlpHa Buttonpusher says
Agreed!
Faux Trixie says
"A man who chooses to remain a virgin is respected, revered, sometimes even praised. A woman who chooses to remain a virgin is abnormal, weird and in desperate need of some type of intervention. Stat."
It's actually the other way around. Men who are virgins are RIDICULED. They even made a movie about it with Steve Carrell.
KekeLynn says
You are so right, people praise men but girls are wierd if they are virgins!
Life is about your goals and what you want, not what other people think about your choices.
And I do think you are right, the journey with someone who is sharing the same new experience is usually more exciting then with someone who has already been on that journey.
Couture Carrie says
I totally agree!
xoxox,
CC
Jen says
I married one, and I was one. It's not a rare as you would assume, but worth the wait! In my opinion, the world is too careless with something that is so intimate and special.
Cafe Fashionista says
I totally agree with what Jen said. Virginity is something to cherish and take pride in. It shouldn't be handed to anyone. It should be bestowed upon the person whom you truly love and are ready to spend the rest of your life with.
That said, I don't think many male virgins would be comfortable admitting that they're one – though I think there may be more lurking about than we truly think! 🙂
Heidi says
Agreed!
Trixie says
I agree with Faux Trixie (good name!) that men are not only ridiculed but filled with self loathing that they're not sexually experienced.
Dan Savage recently tackled this topic and I wrote about it here:
http://theamericanvirgin.blogspot.com/2009/07/dan-savages-tough-love-for-older.html
Trixie says
By the way, Melissa – I do a regular weekly feature called First Person which has posts from several male virgins with different attitudes about their sexual status.
I'd love for you to do one if you want!
http://theamericanvirgin.blogspot.com/search/label/First%20Person
kodi_jo says
Girls aren't always considered abnormal. I hang out with very very different people, some are guys who are virgins and expect it in the girls they date, some are guys who want sex in a relationship, and some are party boys who want to find someone to hook up with at every party they attend…and all those guys know I'm a virgin and not planning on having sex until I'm married. They've all told me they respect me for it, even if it's not their personal choice.
I think it's because it is special, and precious. Girls I know who aren't virgins will say that…that they don't regret having sex but that they regard it as special and can completely understand why I'd want to wait. Guys won't come right out and say that, but they might feel some of that too.