Dear Mr. Melissa Blake:
Marie Claire magazine’s male blogger recently wrote about relationship deal sealers, and isn’t just so refreshing to see a list like this instead of the list of dealbreakers I wrote about a few weeks ago?
To show you that I don’t always have to be the glass-half-empty girl, here are some of my very own deal-sealers. You’d better take notes, sweetpea (awww, you love the name? Thank you) — or better yet, why not print this and keep it in your wallet next to that photo of this year’s “to die for” swimsuit model. What? You don’t have such a blatantly disgusting photo in said wallet? You’re a good boy.
A straight shooter
Those mind games, I admit, can be fun at first – even I play them (and damn well, I might add). It’s almost like pre-relationship flirting…a subtle way of courting. But once we’ve moved past the pre-relationship stage (read: We’re IN a relationship), a bucket load of cryptic messages and mixed signals just gets old and, frankly, childish. Really old and really childish. Really, really faaaaaaast. I need someone like me, someone who tells it like it is, and isn’t afraid to say things. If you come with no decoding or assembly required, we’re have a grand time. Even something as simple and obvious as asking me out (Let’s review: Saying “we should probably hang out and see where it goes…” is not the way to ask me out; that’s what you’d say to your biology lab partner about your experiment that’s due on Monday. I need a formal invitation here….).
A laugh machine
It’s no secret that I’ve been through a lot and seen even more than that in my 27 years, so someone I can have fun with is practically an automatic deal-sealer. Guys who make me laugh also have a cute way of making me feel very comfortable and at ease around them, instead of my awkward default setting. Plus, laughter is a sign that a guy enjoys life. How damn sexy is that? I think that’s why I’ve leaned toward falling for younger guys lately. They just have a way of making me smile, of forgetting all the bad stuff. And they’re just darn adorable.
A little damaged
I’ll be the first to admit that I’ve got my own set of scars – both literally and figuratively. Still, I’ve noticed myself falling for the ones who are a bit emotionally damaged. Call me crazy, but I actually find it a bit sexy – the idea, however misguided it might be – of being that person who could turn a guy’s life around and help him believe in love again. Why else would I continue searching for a real-life Chuck Bass or Dr. Gregory House?
A little bit country…or a little bit rock ‘n roll
I know, it’s a bit shameful and a huge cliche, but if I hear that a guy is in a band, he automatically moves up a notch or two on the hotness scale. And if he’s the lead singer (with a guitar slung from his back and a notepad in his pocket for writing down all those introspective lyrics)? Well, I just might have to marry him right then and there. Plus, who hasn’t heard of a musician who is at least a little bit emotionally damaged?
A family man
A guy who is close to his family is a guy who has a good head on his shoulders and an even bigger heart. He knows what really matters in life, and if you ask me, that’s just plain and simple one of the sexiest traits in the entire world. Plus, his dad could give you a sneak peak into what he’ll be like in a few decades.
[Photo via We Heart It]