I came back from lunch ready to work on another blog post and came across this response to my recent Disability Post:
It has nothing to do with your disability and everything to do with your deformity. I don’t mean that in a disrespectful way, I’m just trying to be realistic. It is not like someone would choose not to date you because you can’t climb a set of stairs.
Honestly, living in DeKalb you are not going to find romance. You are working from too small a pool of men. A very small percentage of the general population is going to be attracted to you and physical attraction, though not everything (as you point out in every single blog post), is still very important. Therefore, you need to maximize your chances by maximizing your exposure.
My advice to you would be to move to a large city and to utilize the internet fully. There you will find men for whom your deformity/disability is an actual desirable trait, not a hinderance. I’m not saying that you need to form a romantic relationship with any guy who fetishizes you. I’m saying that you will have a pool of men who happen to fetishize you and you can choose from the ones that work. The same way being disabled doesn’t make you a bad person, fetishizing disabled people doesn’t make you a bad person either.
Don’t you love how people hide behind anonymity and let their true colors show? It’s so funny they don’t have the guts to attached their name to their dribble.
To Crazy Anonymous Creepster: Ooops. I’m so sorry my deformities repulse you so much. Sorry I can’t be a blonde Barbie fresh out of the factory. Perhaps you forgot to read the About Me section of this blog? You know, where I describe how I’m trying to provide an insightful perspective into the discussions on modern love and romance. Thank you, though, for adding some garbage to my pretty site. I’m deleting your comment; I welcome critiques of my blog, but not of things you obviously know nothing about!
And if a very small percentage of the male population is going to be attracted to me, I wonder, then, what percentage of the population is attracted to you? It has to be much lower, I assume.
FYI, this isn’t 1950. Deformities are sexy. Did someone forget to send you the memo?
xoxo,
Mel
P.S. Internet should be capitalized, by the way. I’m just trying to be realistic.
P.P.S. Guys, let this be a listen to you. Insulting a girl is no way to get her to fall in love with her. 🙂
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Anonymous says
OK.
Lindsay Underwood says
Dear Mr. Anonymous,
I hope you realize that a woman who has such a ‘repulsive disformity’ just made you look like an extremely asinine person. (aka, a dueche bag.) Maybe it is you who needs to go to a larger city where you can hopefully scrape up a mate who will think your obscenely rude attitude is kinky. And speaking derogitively like that DOES make you a bad person. But I too, am just being realistic.
Stilettos and Nostalgia says
Definitely not the right way to approach this subject, Mr. Anonymous. Though your intentions may have been honest, your delivery fell flat. Letting respect shine through everything is key.