A friend of mine recently posed this question to me:
How do you soothe your heart and keep your cool when you are really really interested in someone? I am obsessing…to the point where I am so excited, I am having some trouble even sleeping at night because I am thinking about him….
Any thoughts on this?
Do I have any thoughts? The real question is: How much time do you have! I may not be an expert on the art of dating, but I do gave a ph.D in the Art of Trying Not To Act Like You’re In Love With Someone, But The Very Act of Doing So Proves The Opposite.
Here’s an example: When I’m interested in a guy, I usually act one of two ways around him:
1. I become a mute and can’t think of even one thing to say. I usually just sit there awkwardly staring at the floor (which in itself draws more attention to me seeing as my neck is fused, so I literally have to strain to even look at the floor).
2. I giggle uncontrollably and can’t stop talking, mostly about something stupid. An hour later, I’m trying to piece together just exactly what it was I said should I need to do damage control at at later date.
So I suppose the questions you have to ask yourself are these: How well do I know the guy? How long have we known each other? What is it about him that makes me so unhinged?
Is there some reason you haven’t told the guy how you feel? It sounds like you’re over the moon, and if he’s available, I say, again, depending on how well you two know each other (I don’t want you getting slapped with a restraining order; I’m quite sure I’ve ventured close to that territory before), work some of your flirting mojo and see where it leads. You never know, he could be as obsessed with you as you are with him, but he’s afraid to make the first move. Just talk, of if you’re like me and are more witty over email, send some flirty emails and see what happens.
But on the other hand, if he IS attached, I’m afraid there’s nothing you can do. Well, there is one thing, rather it’s something you shouldn’t do: Do not rent Fatal Attraction.