Amidst the rain today, I’ve been thinking more about the whole Guy/Girl friendship thing. Can it EVER work? Is it impossible NOT to eventually fall in love with the other person? Then I realized it’s those questions that are the bloody problem. We think/contemplate/overanalyze about it to death – it’s like we set ourselves up for failure.
So my new philosophy? Think like a teen. Here’s an article I wrote for Girls’ Life magazine, an article they ultimately passed on. But it still holds some good tips!
What do you think?
Pop quiz: Have you ever asked yourself that age-old question, “Can guys and girls really just be friends?” The answer: Of course they can! If you’ve noticed your circle of friends has been heavy on the girl BFFs lately, a guy pal may be just the right thing to even things out. And guess what? Making guy friends is a whole lot easier and much less scary than you think. From the guy in your math class to the guy next door, the opportunities are endless. By tapping into your own awesome personality and killer interests, a guy pal could already be right under your nose. Follow these tips and watch the friendship sparks fly!
THE BRAINY BOOKWORM: You love curling up on the couch on a rainy Saturday with a good book. Your favorite books let you escape to different worlds, and your friends can usually find you with a book in your hand – or your nose in one!
Guy Pal Hot Spot -> Why not head to the library (again!) or local bookstore? Chances are, your newest book buddy could be looking for the newest Harry Potter book just like you. Or, go ahead and chat up the dude sitting behind you in English class. Ask him what he thinks of the book the class is reading. Pretty soon, you two could be LOLing about your teacher’s crazy outfits!
THE CREATIVE CHICA: Your imagination and the arts are your true passion – you love everything from movies and music to classic French paintings. On any given day, you could be found painting your latest masterpiece or writing your own song! The only problem? You seem to be alone in your love of all things artsy and fun.
Guy Pal Hot Spot -> The school play is the place to be! Imagine a stage full of people who love the same things you do (yes, potential guy buds included). Go ahead and audition for the play, or even sign up to work behind the scenes designing cool costumes or pretty props. It won’t be long before you find that guy who adores discussing movie plots and analyzing characters as much as you do. Bonus: You’ll also have a built-in movie buddy!
THE NATURE NUT: You have a passion for ever season: skiing in the winter, track and field in the spring, swimming in the summer and biking and hiking in the fall. No season – or sport – is off limits! Some (read: your parents) may think you’re a bit of an adventurous risk taker, but you’re happiest when you’re out in the fresh air, communing with nature, whether that be in a shady forest or on a sunny beach
Guy Pal Hot Spot -> Check out your local health club or YMCA and see what fun activities are available for teens. You just might meet your match, and the two of you can spend hours at the tennis courts or racing each other around the track. OR, seeing as what an adventurous chica you are, why not see if you can start an intramurals club at your school if there’s not one already. Bonus: Because you’re in charge, you get to call dibs on captain!
THE GIRLY GEEK: You know first-hand that being a geek is oh so chic and cool. Guitar Hero. Vidoe Games. Comic books. You love it all. Maybe you’ve even put your love and talent together to create some original comics of your own. And let’s not forget about that huge Guitar Hero marathon last weekend.
Guy Pal Hot Spot -> Did you ever wonder what the deal is with that guy who sits in the back row of homeroom with his head buried in the latest Spiderman comic? Now’s the perfect time to chat him up! And, that comic book is the perfect ice breaker; ask him who his favorite character is and offer to trade comics with each other (hey, you’ll both save money too!). What’s better than bonding over a capped superhero?
Bottom Line: The key is to bond over common interests. So what are YOU waiting for? Go get him, girl.